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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Janx" data-source="post: 5900362" data-attributes="member: 8835">I don't think the intent of anybody's filters is to be mean or exclude perfectly fine people.we're all just taking our experience and identifying common traits of the people we wish to avoid.It's not life or death.  It's not like we're trying to filter out terrorists who are trying to infiltrate our country and blow us all up.  And you're not dooming the occasional false positive to hard labor in a penal colony.I suppose it would be great to have a home psychopath test (please pee on this test strip and submit your results before you can join our group).I suspect you could combine every body's list of criteria and pick out an improved list.  I can certainly see reasons behind [MENTION=1297]Olive[/MENTION]'s list, but as a programmer, I also see how it's not as precise as I'd like it to be.So far, ideas I see are:not struggling to survive (place to live, able to afford food, rent, utilities)has other hobbies/interests (not hyper-focussed creepy on just one topic)has other relationships (friends, SO, whatever, not a total hermit loner with no social skills)is clean/not smelly (avoid social awkwardness with people who should know better)doesn't dress skanky or wierd (EW had good reasons on the skanky part, it might be eye candy, but it'll probably be drama.  I think any kind eccentric wardrobing is a warning sign that this person doesn't fit in with others)likes animals (as opposed to someone who won't touch or tolerate any animal)likes music (might not share your interest, but has a preference.  Versus "I do not like music at all")I've taken EW's and Olive's criteria and merged/modified them.  I think there were some nuggets in Olive's example, but as worded, they struck others as too broad.  I tried to reword them to strike at the heart of what I felt was the objective.I added the last two, because other experience of mine has shown that these are interesting metrics to apply.  There is something inhuman about somebody who doesn't like animals at all.  Or music.  At the minimum, most people do, and somebody who doesn't is pretty alien.  You will likely find they do not mesh socially with everybody else.</blockquote>

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