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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Umbran" data-source="post: 1355825" data-attributes="member: 177">Hm.Well, I myself don't limit character genders, but I know many GMs that do.  The logic behind it isn't completely unsound, especially in a case where the idea is for lots of solid role-play.You see, most folks don't do a very good job of cross-gender play.  In addition, many players have a bit of trouble separating player gender from character gender - a male character of a female player doesn't usually get treated "like one of the guys", because the male players have trouble treating the female player "like one of the guys".  In general, cross-gender play can create situations that run at odds with a lifetime of social conditioning.  Forgive folks if that gets in the way of their role-play. They are only human <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />Now, remember that this DM hasn't seen you play cross-gender, and therefore has no reason to think you'd do it better than anyone else.  Even if you do the job well, it may still hamper other people's role playing.   One way to avoid the potentially jarring results is to simply not allow it.  It's perfectly okay to ask for the DM's reasons.  It's even okay to ask him to consider dropping the rule.  Asking for an exception to the rule for you is not as okay.  DM's are not supposed to play favorites, so don't ask him to do so.  -----Now, as to your min-maxer.  I'd like to note that asking the questions now may be a good sign.  He's making sure that he's getting a good view of what's possible beforehand, getting many issues out of the way before play begins.  That means that rules issues are less likely to impinge on actual play.I don't understand your reaction to the "dark and brooding" thing.  You seem to think that somehow this is lesser role-playing?  If so, I think you are very wrong.  "Dark and brooding" done well is as good as anything else done well.  It can be a very nice addition to a party dynamic, especially for long-term play, as it tends to extend the character and relationship development over longer periods of time than a more open personality might.  A well played "dark and brooding" has reasons behind it, and that means potential role-play based plot hooks, too.Food for thought:  I sense a bit of a double standard here - what you choose to play (male) is supposed to be okay, but what others choose to play (min-maxed, dark and brooding) is not?  Is that fair?  If you want them to be open to cross-gender play, shouldn't you be as open to what they want to play?</blockquote>

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