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<blockquote data-quote="Zelda Themelin" data-source="post: 5375920" data-attributes="member: 167">Not all people work well as dm. It's too bad, if his personality takes fun away. It's bit same as some people in RL work become boss, and changes into control freak and cause grief to people who have to work under him. Even if he was nice person before that position or still outside job. Dm position gives power, and some people react to getting power become controllive and over-critical. In this case he doesn't take critique well, or ignores it. It's likely it never gets better and he ends up being real joy-kill as dm.And he will always say it's your fault.If you are lucky, it's just nerves. He kida wants to succeed really badly, and is very nervous of failure. And so he wants it go &quot;perfectly&quot;, but ends up ruining it by trying too hard. In this case try to give him and change and find ways to get him to relax, and don't be too judgemantal. He might actually become good DM in this case, if you treat him right. But you have to find nice way to tell he needs to relax and loosen up. Help him see it makes things better not worse for geme. Too much critique in this case makes hm kinda get into turtle mode and become extreamely defensive.You are perhaps best person to tell which one is nearer to truth if neither.If it doesn't get better, find way to get off the game.&nbsp; Not all people make good bosses and not all people make good dm:s. Give him some time though, and if he is more like case 2, give him bit more time. And when giving feedback try to bring out positeve things instead of things he needs to change. Even less touchy people become defensive when friends are loading him with criticue and all he wanted was to create fun game.After all the work of preparing for it, he probably has connected himself to it, like way, if you say you don't like something in npc or place etc, he takes it personally.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Zelda Themelin, post: 5375920, member: 167"] Not all people work well as dm. It's too bad, if his personality takes fun away. It's bit same as some people in RL work become boss, and changes into control freak and cause grief to people who have to work under him. Even if he was nice person before that position or still outside job. Dm position gives power, and some people react to getting power become controllive and over-critical. In this case he doesn't take critique well, or ignores it. It's likely it never gets better and he ends up being real joy-kill as dm. And he will always say it's your fault. If you are lucky, it's just nerves. He kida wants to succeed really badly, and is very nervous of failure. And so he wants it go "perfectly", but ends up ruining it by trying too hard. In this case try to give him and change and find ways to get him to relax, and don't be too judgemantal. He might actually become good DM in this case, if you treat him right. But you have to find nice way to tell he needs to relax and loosen up. Help him see it makes things better not worse for geme. Too much critique in this case makes hm kinda get into turtle mode and become extreamely defensive. You are perhaps best person to tell which one is nearer to truth if neither. If it doesn't get better, find way to get off the game. Not all people make good bosses and not all people make good dm:s. Give him some time though, and if he is more like case 2, give him bit more time. And when giving feedback try to bring out positeve things instead of things he needs to change. Even less touchy people become defensive when friends are loading him with criticue and all he wanted was to create fun game. After all the work of preparing for it, he probably has connected himself to it, like way, if you say you don't like something in npc or place etc, he takes it personally. [/QUOTE]

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