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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Rel" data-source="post: 2806028" data-attributes="member: 99">Pace yourself there, Captain Sunshine.  You gotta save some hate for New Years too. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />I think that to some degree, breaking existing holiday traditions is one of the milestones of adulthood.  It shows that you are establishing indenpendance from what the family has always done and making your own traditions that suit your lifestyle and accomodations you make for new people in your life.I can recall getting a lot of flak from my mother's family for not showing up on Christmas Day or the day after when they all gathered at my Grandmother's house.  I just didn't have time after I got married what with celebrating with my mother, then going to my father's house and then to my in-laws all on Christmas Day.  So I started driving down to Grandma's house on Christmas Eve and visiting her when nobody else was around.  Those are some of my favorite memories of her since we got a chance to talk more and I helped her do a bunch of chores around the house to prepare for the next day.Several years later we announced that my wife was pregnant.  I told my parents that year that there would be no more driving all over hell and gone on Christmas Day after the baby was born.  I wanted my daughter to get the chance to enjoy Christmas morning at home and then play with her toys all day, like we did when we were kids.  My folks weren't totally thrilled with this idea but they also realized that it's exactly what they did when I was born.</blockquote>

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