Menu
News
All News
Dungeons & Dragons
Level Up: Advanced 5th Edition
Pathfinder
Starfinder
Warhammer
2d20 System
Year Zero Engine
Industry News
Reviews
Dragon Reflections
White Dwarf Reflections
Columns
Weekly Digests
Weekly News Digest
Freebies, Sales & Bundles
RPG Print News
RPG Crowdfunding News
Game Content
ENterplanetary DimENsions
Mythological Figures
Opinion
Worlds of Design
Peregrine's Nest
RPG Evolution
Other Columns
From the Freelancing Frontline
Monster ENcyclopedia
WotC/TSR Alumni Look Back
4 Hours w/RSD (Ryan Dancey)
The Road to 3E (Jonathan Tweet)
Greenwood's Realms (Ed Greenwood)
Drawmij's TSR (Jim Ward)
Community
Forums & Topics
Forum List
Latest Posts
Forum list
*Dungeons & Dragons
Level Up: Advanced 5th Edition
D&D Older Editions, OSR, & D&D Variants
*TTRPGs General
*Pathfinder & Starfinder
EN Publishing
*Geek Talk & Media
Search forums
Chat/Discord
Resources
Wiki
Pages
Latest activity
Media
New media
New comments
Search media
Downloads
Latest reviews
Search resources
EN Publishing
Store
EN5ider
Adventures in ZEITGEIST
Awfully Cheerful Engine
What's OLD is NEW
Judge Dredd & The Worlds Of 2000AD
War of the Burning Sky
Level Up: Advanced 5E
Events & Releases
Upcoming Events
Private Events
Featured Events
Socials!
EN Publishing
Twitter
BlueSky
Facebook
Instagram
EN World
BlueSky
YouTube
Facebook
Twitter
Twitch
Podcast
Features
Top 5 RPGs Compiled Charts 2004-Present
Adventure Game Industry Market Research Summary (RPGs) V1.0
Ryan Dancey: Acquiring TSR
Q&A With Gary Gygax
D&D Rules FAQs
TSR, WotC, & Paizo: A Comparative History
D&D Pronunciation Guide
Million Dollar TTRPG Kickstarters
Tabletop RPG Podcast Hall of Fame
Eric Noah's Unofficial D&D 3rd Edition News
D&D in the Mainstream
D&D & RPG History
About Morrus
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
Forums & Topics
Forum List
Latest Posts
Forum list
*Dungeons & Dragons
Level Up: Advanced 5th Edition
D&D Older Editions, OSR, & D&D Variants
*TTRPGs General
*Pathfinder & Starfinder
EN Publishing
*Geek Talk & Media
Search forums
Chat/Discord
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Upgrade your account to a Community Supporter account and remove most of the site ads.
Community
General Tabletop Discussion
*TTRPGs General
[semi-ot] The end of innocence...and the beginning of the real world
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="The Sigil" data-source="post: 182401" data-attributes="member: 2013"><p><strong>Concur...</strong></p><p></p><p></p><p>I hate to sound like I'm against love and all that, but Eryx makes a terrific point. My wife is not exactly thrilled about my RPG habit... but when we were dating, she was willing to come "into the dungeon" with me and a bunch of my dopey gaming friends just so she could see what it was all about. She realizes that they are not "evil," but she doesn't find them fun. And we're both fine with that.</p><p></p><p>I don't find her love of gardening fun (yes, I went out and gardened with her a few times), but I make sure to take some time to watch our son while she gardens. She makes sure to take time to watch him while I write/play RPGs. She knows that this is one of my "stress-releasers" and as such is willing to let me indulge, even if she doesn't happen to like them for herself.</p><p></p><p>We have a lot of common interests, too (for example, both of us are basketball junkies and with the NBA playoffs around, it's party time at our house)... but it is extremely important in any relationship that acceptance of activities with little real bearing on the relationship take place (if your hobby is reading Playboy and hiring whores, that would probably put a strain on the relationship... and that kind of hobby needs to go if she asks you to dump it). Any hobby that boils down to "I'm getting together with my friends for a few hours a week" - whether it's for beers or bowling or RPGs - should be accepted, even if you don't find them interesting/fun. And that means you should accept her hobbies, too. You don't have to like doing them yourself, but give her enough space to do them.</p><p></p><p>I have seen what happens when people try to push their healthy interests aside in the name of "love" - it winds up destroying both them and the relationship. My mother loves music and art and my father is a very straightlaced person who doesn't have time for that sort of thing. My mother stopped doing music and art for almost 20 years while they were married and it destroyed their relationship - they are divorced now (there were other reasons) - and holding it inside did a lot of damage to her (I can still see the emotional scars - she was hurt by the years of repression a lot more than my father was).</p><p></p><p>Believe me when I tell you that if you try to push yourself aside for "love," you will wind up destroying yourself, you will wind up destroying your relationship, you may end up losing your capacity to love, and you will probably wind up losing her anyway. Better to lose her now and get it over with than compounding the pain over time by destroying yourself and your capacity to love in addition to losing her.</p><p></p><p>BTW, the reverse holds for girls/guys... girls shouldn't try to change for their guy, either.</p><p></p><p>Okay, I'm off my soapbox... rant over.</p><p></p><p>--The Sigil</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="The Sigil, post: 182401, member: 2013"] [b]Concur...[/b] I hate to sound like I'm against love and all that, but Eryx makes a terrific point. My wife is not exactly thrilled about my RPG habit... but when we were dating, she was willing to come "into the dungeon" with me and a bunch of my dopey gaming friends just so she could see what it was all about. She realizes that they are not "evil," but she doesn't find them fun. And we're both fine with that. I don't find her love of gardening fun (yes, I went out and gardened with her a few times), but I make sure to take some time to watch our son while she gardens. She makes sure to take time to watch him while I write/play RPGs. She knows that this is one of my "stress-releasers" and as such is willing to let me indulge, even if she doesn't happen to like them for herself. We have a lot of common interests, too (for example, both of us are basketball junkies and with the NBA playoffs around, it's party time at our house)... but it is extremely important in any relationship that acceptance of activities with little real bearing on the relationship take place (if your hobby is reading Playboy and hiring whores, that would probably put a strain on the relationship... and that kind of hobby needs to go if she asks you to dump it). Any hobby that boils down to "I'm getting together with my friends for a few hours a week" - whether it's for beers or bowling or RPGs - should be accepted, even if you don't find them interesting/fun. And that means you should accept her hobbies, too. You don't have to like doing them yourself, but give her enough space to do them. I have seen what happens when people try to push their healthy interests aside in the name of "love" - it winds up destroying both them and the relationship. My mother loves music and art and my father is a very straightlaced person who doesn't have time for that sort of thing. My mother stopped doing music and art for almost 20 years while they were married and it destroyed their relationship - they are divorced now (there were other reasons) - and holding it inside did a lot of damage to her (I can still see the emotional scars - she was hurt by the years of repression a lot more than my father was). Believe me when I tell you that if you try to push yourself aside for "love," you will wind up destroying yourself, you will wind up destroying your relationship, you may end up losing your capacity to love, and you will probably wind up losing her anyway. Better to lose her now and get it over with than compounding the pain over time by destroying yourself and your capacity to love in addition to losing her. BTW, the reverse holds for girls/guys... girls shouldn't try to change for their guy, either. Okay, I'm off my soapbox... rant over. --The Sigil [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Community
General Tabletop Discussion
*TTRPGs General
[semi-ot] The end of innocence...and the beginning of the real world
Top