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<blockquote data-quote="Desdichado" data-source="post: 3764786" data-attributes="member: 2205">Ideally, yes.&nbsp; Practically... sometimes not.I think you're again, looking at ideal conditions and applying them.&nbsp; Lots of groups don't have the luxury of shopping around for DMs who's playstyle matches theres, and even if they could, they may not for other reasons (already old friends who enjoy getting together for the social aspect, for example, or something like that.)I mean, it'd be great if everyone in my group was on the exact same page as me in terms of playstyle,&nbsp; taste, scheduling, etc. but they're not.&nbsp; Rather than try to assemble my ideal group, I say, &quot;these guys are great guys, and I enjoy playing with them enough that I'll put up with games that I'd rather not play at times, or playstyle differences, or what-have-you because those aren't as important to me as the friendship.&quot;I think it's important for any DM to recognize that most likely his group is not made up of people who are identical to him in terms of what they want out of the game, and that if he wants to be a better DM, he can look to what his group likes and wants out of the gaming experience and try to give it to them, within the parameters of running a game that he also enjoys.Your advice, on the other hand, sounds pretty absolute, i.e., &quot;I'm the DM and it's my way or the high way, and if you don't like it, I can find other players who do&quot; or something like that.&nbsp; I don't think that approach is very practical.&nbsp; And even if it was, it's kinda a jack-ass move, assuming that you game with people that you call friends.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Desdichado, post: 3764786, member: 2205"] Ideally, yes. Practically... sometimes not. I think you're again, looking at ideal conditions and applying them. Lots of groups don't have the luxury of shopping around for DMs who's playstyle matches theres, and even if they could, they may not for other reasons (already old friends who enjoy getting together for the social aspect, for example, or something like that.) I mean, it'd be great if everyone in my group was on the exact same page as me in terms of playstyle, taste, scheduling, etc. but they're not. Rather than try to assemble my ideal group, I say, "these guys are great guys, and I enjoy playing with them enough that I'll put up with games that I'd rather not play at times, or playstyle differences, or what-have-you because those aren't as important to me as the friendship." I think it's important for any DM to recognize that most likely his group is not made up of people who are identical to him in terms of what they want out of the game, and that if he wants to be a better DM, he can look to what his group likes and wants out of the gaming experience and try to give it to them, within the parameters of running a game that he also enjoys. Your advice, on the other hand, sounds pretty absolute, i.e., "I'm the DM and it's my way or the high way, and if you don't like it, I can find other players who do" or something like that. I don't think that approach is very practical. And even if it was, it's kinda a jack-ass move, assuming that you game with people that you call friends. [/QUOTE]

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