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Message: <blockquote data-quote="StalkingBlue" data-source="post: 1671460" data-attributes="member: 645">It is not that blatant.  If it were I'd have left the game quickly - I have no time for people who so simply and obviously don't play in my league.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />  I've been a bit hesitant to post examples here for two reasons:  Firstly because, as we all know from similar threads on these boards, examples involving specific individuals tend to invite nasty comments and pointing of myriads of fingers against those individuals regardless of whether that is productive or even appropriate in the circumstances.  I don't want to start a flame war against any indidual in the game, I don't even see any of the regulars as specifically more guilty than anyone else.  Secondly the roots of my problem (and apparently, as I've only very recently learnt, randomling's problem as well) in the game are subtle and manifold.  If it were a matter of individual, spaced-out, clearly defined challenges that can be overcome by quick wit, a laugh or a display of superior power, I'd be able to deal with them, as I do in real life.  They are not.  It's more that - at least to my perception - underlying sexism appears to pervade every level of the game.  S'mon himself says that the campaign area is sexist against women, yet the examples that I have mentioned to him to explain how I see his world and how I feel in his game seem to be met by either of two replies:  that I'm making incorrect assumptions about the few non-marginal female NPCs we encounter, and/or that the failure of my PCs to get a foot on the ground is due not so much to their gender as to their being mistrusted as foreigners, wearing the wrong kind of clothes etc., and to my own failure to recognise opportunities and grasp them "as a male player would".   Ironically enough at the same time I'm being criticised for being too demanding and oppositional - a sure sign that my communication habits are, if anything, self-assured and masculine rather than wiltingly feminine.  (Usually that helps me get on well with men and in male-dominated environments btw, but apparently not here.)   We also have at least one male player (male PC, big nasty weapon of course) who appears to be getting positions of command and rulership fairly thrust on him without making any RP effort whatsoever. Don't get me wrong - he's more than welcome to it if that makes him happy, which it very obviously does.  I welcome everything that helps bring out a PC's personality and make them cooler, in my perfect world we should all be stars.  What frustrates me that at the same time I am told I'm failing to "step on up" and grasp and exploit opportunities that I don't even see, so I'm made to feel it's my own (implied) inadequacy that prevents my success in the game.  That is even more frustrating when it's already been admitted that the campaign is set in a sexist setting that makes success harder to achieve for female PCs.</blockquote>

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