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Message: <blockquote data-quote="RPGgirl" data-source="post: 1671994" data-attributes="member: 15564">I don't know how much help this will be, but here is what I did.  Back in year one I started playing LG with my husband.  We joined an existing group where we knew no one, and there were very few females.  I made up a sorcerer with  pretty much the same stats in everything.  I was thinking it would be a well rounded and therefore well like character.  What ended up happenning was this ... 1.  I was someone's wife which automatically put me in a subordinate role at the table.  I eventually started playing without my husband.2.  I was one of a few females and like Stalking Blue I was often overlooked, or given the polite nod, and then that was it.3.  I had orginally designed my character to be Neutral Good and help to augment the party, which turned me into even a bigger door mat for the men at the table. So, what I did was make a drastic change in how my character was run.  As I gained levels I dropped the buff spells in favor of the damage dealing blow-em-up stuff.  I stopped offering to buff the party as my first course of action, and instead either cast defensive spells on myself or just started blazing the way with fireball, lightning bolt, etc.  And finally, I made a conscious change in alignment from little-miss-goody-two-shoes to a true Neutral killing machine.  Even now, when I sit at a table with people I don't know (and it is usually all or mostly men) I start off with the same sexist attitudes, but those quickly go by the side when they realize I am a force to be reckoned with.   This is just a thought and what I did to overcome falling into the background.  I do not think anyone should have to change their character because of outdated sexism, but if you can't get the system to change, sometime you need to change in order to get along in the system.</blockquote>

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