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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Malanath" data-source="post: 2880010" data-attributes="member: 25538">Aikuchi-Thanks.   <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" /> I'm actually using a dowry system that is somewhat similar to a dowry found in traditional Chinese culture.  The purpose of a dowry is to secure funds for the young families future.  While the life of a traditional female is within the sphere of family and the home, the sphere of the male is to provide and protect the family.  If the husband's family cannot offer a sufficient dowry and the bride's family must offer a dowry it is considered a high dishonor for the husband.  (As he would be forced to live off of his wife's funds.)  It is also considered a highly charitable act (and one that earns honor) for a more well to do family to put up a dowry for a husband so that he can provide for his new family and his first wife.  Of course if the husband is honorable he will consider himself indebted to whoever paid his dowry, and will feel honor bound to somehow pay it back.  Dowries are also one shot deals and aren't paid overtime by the family.  Also, it is customary for the brides family to offer a smaller dowry, at least half the size of the husbands dowry, although this isn't necessary, especially if the husbands dowry is large enough to support the family.There are varying degrees of the custom which vary depending on the region of the empire that you live, the new families status within society, and whether they live in an urban or a rural area.  This would certainly be true for some silksokai, as all men and women are expected to get married and have children.  Not everyone does, of course, but getting out of marriage is extremely difficult.  The easiest way is joining the Imperial Church.  The Silksokai also serve a greater purpose than just "really good friends between men".  Being someone's silksokai is literally - I could never stress this enough - a marriage between two families.  One mans honor is literally bound to the other mans honor.  If your silksokai is somehow dishonored then by extension so are you.  If someone slays your silksokai then you are honor bound to make sure that justice is done to his murderer.  (Which would typically mean hunting down the murderer and killing him.)  If your silksokai dies then you are honor bound to take care of his wives and his children.  Of course, by the same token if you dishonor your silksokai - such as by sleeping with one of his wives, he is honor bound to kill you.  (This wouldn't be considered against the law.)  The bonds of honor between silksokai is extraordinarily complex and deep.  It's one of the reasons that allowing members of a silksokai to have sex made perfect sense.  I am still developing the honor system, and I am using eastern philosophical concepts of shame and honor for it, with a particular focus on the Japanese culture.</blockquote>

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