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<blockquote data-quote="mythago" data-source="post: 668452" data-attributes="member: 3019">Air your peeves all you like, but don't stoop to misrepresenting Miss Manners--who, as far as I'm aware, has never chided people for bowing out of social engagements due to the kids coming down with 103-degree fevers, or onself having an extremely contagious cold. Both of these are way short of death, but Miss Manners (and, I hope, you) would consider them perfectly fine excuses for cancelling a social commitment.As a GM, I agree with you that players need to think about their impact on the group. Bowing out at the last minute can mess up the game for other people, and doing that because you feel like staying home and flaking is pretty rude. But I didn't say that was OK. My point was only that another poster had mistakenly claimed DarkCrisis was a no-show when he had, in fact, called ahead.BTW, I also think killing off a character with no notice for a first offense is pathetic. Giving a warning, telling the guy not to bother showing up for the next session--sure. But waiting to greet the player next time with &quot;You're dead! Roll up a new PC!&quot; is just lame.&nbsp;Tell him he can forget about being included in any major plotlines or adventures. It's understandable when people have to bow out from time to time, but when the game becomes &quot;if I have nothing better to do,&quot; then as a GM I will expend a similar amount of consideration on trying to entertain that player. Which is to say, not much.What is this &quot;girlfriend or wife&quot; thing anyway? Everyone should spend time with their family, but the day I tell my GM that I can't come to game because my husband is being pouty about it, will be the day my gaming buds stage an intervention.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="mythago, post: 668452, member: 3019"] Air your peeves all you like, but don't stoop to misrepresenting Miss Manners--who, as far as I'm aware, has never chided people for bowing out of social engagements due to the kids coming down with 103-degree fevers, or onself having an extremely contagious cold. Both of these are way short of death, but Miss Manners (and, I hope, you) would consider them perfectly fine excuses for cancelling a social commitment. As a GM, I agree with you that players need to think about their impact on the group. Bowing out at the last minute can mess up the game for [i]other people[/i], and doing that because you feel like staying home and flaking is pretty rude. But I didn't say that was OK. My point was only that another poster had mistakenly claimed DarkCrisis was a no-show when he had, in fact, called ahead. BTW, I also think killing off a character with no notice for a first offense is pathetic. Giving a warning, telling the guy not to bother showing up for the next session--sure. But waiting to greet the player next time with "You're dead! Roll up a new PC!" is just lame. Tell him he can forget about being included in any major plotlines or adventures. It's understandable when people have to bow out from time to time, but when the game becomes "if I have nothing better to do," then as a GM I will expend a similar amount of consideration on trying to entertain that player. Which is to say, not much. What is this "girlfriend or wife" thing anyway? Everyone should spend time with their family, but the day I tell my GM that I can't come to game because my husband is being pouty about it, will be the day my gaming buds stage an intervention. [/QUOTE]

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