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Message: <blockquote data-quote="jdavis" data-source="post: 675409" data-attributes="member: 8704">Yes and the game can be played both ways, it's a matter of perspective. I am older and my time is very limited, as is all the other people that I game with, D&D is the only group get together left for me and my friends, it is expected that you won't show up every session because you have a wife and kids and a job and those things take precedece over D&D. We don't argue or gripe over missing we are thankful to get to play at all, we make the best of it. For some people it is more important and some people it is less important, for us it is a luxury to get to play at all under any circumstances. And make no mistake this is a game, D&D should never be more important than your real life. I hear so many people here say "my players better not miss", well if I am taking my family on vaction, then I'm going to miss, I'm not going to cancel a trip for D&D, If one of the players gets called in to work, well he's going to work, if his beeper goes off he drops his dice, grabs his stuff and goes to work, If my child is sick then I am going to stay at home with my sick child, sorry. I can understand people getting mad at people blowing sessions off, but you have to expect that real life will rear it's ugly head once in a while. And sometimes people just get burned out and need a night off from gaming, it happens, they are not bad people. I do understand about it being a pain in the butt when people miss but take the same example and apply it in the same way as D&D, if you had a formal dinner party every week you would have to expect that not everybody would be able to show up every single week to eat, D&D is not a barbecue or a dinner or a formal social event, it is something that happens over and over, for most people once a week. It seems a better analogy to what I keep hearing is that D&D is like a college night class, it meets once a week and if you miss it you don't get the notes and if you miss too often you get your grade dropped. "Be there or else". The teacher puts a lot of work into the class, they expect you to participate in the class, it is expected that you will pay attention in the class, if you miss the class you may miss a pop quiz or a important lecture. The class meets every week at the same time, your attendance is manditory. Why should you be suprised when some people don't agree to gaming like this, if you like it that's fine but some people don't want D&D to become a chore or a manditory event in their lives, this doesn't mean that they don't enjoy the game any less or that they don't take the game as serious, it just means that they don't want the game to become "like work or school". If you enjoy playing this way then there is absolutly nothing in the world wrong with it (heck I wish I could game this way), but there is absolutly nothing in the world wrong with not wanting to game this way either. It's all about percertion and interpetation and in no way about who's right and who's wrong.</blockquote>

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