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<blockquote data-quote="drnuncheon" data-source="post: 675542" data-attributes="member: 96">Why is it that so many people - mythago and tburdett most recently - keep trying to argue about just ditching a gaming session?Everybody knows that's rude.Everybody agrees that's rude.But it's not relevant, because it's not what happened.It's very frustrating to see people saying things like &quot;pardon me all to Limbo if I do, indeed, believe you owe your GM or your fellow players more than gracing them with your occasional presence at whim&quot; or &quot;it's a game that relies heavily upon the participation of all players, not just those who decide to show up regularly&quot;, when DC has said often that he missed once, and that he was polite enough to inform the DM beforehand.Now, either you take that at face value - in which case all of that ranting is irrelevant - or you basically assume that DC is a liar.&nbsp; Continually comparing this situation to someone who regularly ditches a game without warning is, quite frankly, both rude and insulting to DC.&nbsp; I find it incredibly ironic that the people who are behaving this way are doing so while they talk about politeness and consideration.If someone calls you, once, before the game, and says &quot;I can't make it&quot;, is that 'inconsiderate'?&nbsp; Isn't that player trying to minimize the inconvenience that they are causing you?&nbsp; Sounds pretty considerate to me.Politeness and understanding works both ways.&nbsp; If the guy's really looking forward to Rare Event X - whatever that event is, whether it's a date or a visit from the folks or even a rare chance to spend time alone, then are you really being considerate by saying &quot;No, you have to come game or we'll hate you, kill your character, burn the sheet, urinate on the remains, and mail it to your Senator&quot;?Again: everybody agrees that ditching without telling anyone is rude.&nbsp; Everyone agrees that ditching constantly is rude (even if you tell them ahead of time).&nbsp; But not showing up one time, after calling to tell the DM - we're not in 'burn-at-the-stake' territory here.&nbsp; We can't even see the border.J</blockquote>

[QUOTE="drnuncheon, post: 675542, member: 96"] Why is it that so many people - mythago and tburdett most recently - keep trying to argue about just ditching a gaming session? Everybody knows that's rude. Everybody agrees that's rude. But it's not relevant, because it's not what happened. It's very frustrating to see people saying things like "pardon me all to Limbo if I do, indeed, believe you owe your GM or your fellow players more than gracing them with your occasional presence at whim" or "it's a game that relies heavily upon the participation of all players, not just those who decide to show up regularly", when DC has said often that he missed [b]once[/b], and that he was polite enough to inform the DM beforehand. Now, either you take that at face value - in which case all of that ranting is irrelevant - or you basically assume that DC is a liar. Continually comparing this situation to someone who regularly ditches a game without warning is, quite frankly, both rude and insulting to DC. I find it incredibly ironic that the people who are behaving this way are doing so while they talk about politeness and consideration. If someone calls you, once, before the game, and says "I can't make it", is that 'inconsiderate'? Isn't that player trying to minimize the inconvenience that they are causing you? Sounds pretty considerate to me. Politeness and understanding works both ways. If the guy's really looking forward to Rare Event X - whatever that event is, whether it's a date or a visit from the folks or even a rare chance to spend time alone, then are [i]you[/i] really being considerate by saying "No, you have to come game or we'll hate you, kill your character, burn the sheet, urinate on the remains, and mail it to your Senator"? Again: everybody agrees that ditching without telling anyone is rude. Everyone agrees that ditching constantly is rude (even if you tell them ahead of time). But not showing up one time, after calling to tell the DM - we're not in 'burn-at-the-stake' territory here. We can't even see the border. J [/QUOTE]

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