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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Zombie_Babies" data-source="post: 6291146" data-attributes="member: 6750039">I have a 15 year old stepson and my wife and I have decided not to have any more kids.  We'd like to enjoy our lives while we're still able to properly appreciate things and with a kid that's getting closer and closer to being able to be on his own (yeah, still some time left, of course, but we're 15 years into it - not like a baby) we'd rather not start over.  Plus it wouldn't be all that cool for him, either.  He'd get a brother or sister but it wouldn't be like a brother or sister cuz the age difference is just too much.  Lots of reasons not to have another one, that's for sure.  Some aren't even that particularly selfish.Anyhoo, I've sort of done the 'kid but miss the diaper stage' thing and I can definitely recommend it.  You still form the bond and you get to the cool stuff faster.  A baby is a blob of need, a kid is like getting a toy on Christmas and getting the batteries for it - you can start to enjoy the cool stuff sooner.  Of course it also puts you into the scary stuff faster (school, sexual activity, college, driving, etc).  But still, I think I prefer it.Adoption can be pretty damned cool.  A friend of mine adopted twin boys from S Korea and then went back and adopted a baby girl.  They're all growing up, they're all fantastic kids and it was more than a win for all of them.  They went though Family Adoption Consultants and couldn't have been happier with the organization.  Really, considering your age and your opinion on humanity I'd have to say that adoption is the best course of action for many reasons - including, of course, the fact that you can take a kid who may lead a crappy life and give them one that they probably would never have known.  It'd offset some of the awful out there quite a bit and we all know it's better to do something about a problem than to just complain about it.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /></blockquote>

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