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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Mage of Spellford" data-source="post: 6291289" data-attributes="member: 21576">Hi,I actually lived through this exact situation. When my wife and I first got together she asked me if I wanted kids and I said "no". She had two kids from a previous marriage and at the time, I believed and wanted to concentrate on making sure they had the best life that I could give them.Fast forward about 5 years later. The kids were in their late teens and my wife approached me with the very question. We discussed it and came to the mutual decision that we would try and have another child, but that we would leave it to fate (no ivf etc.) Two years later, after several false alarms our daughter was born.I was 44 at the time and my wife was 43. It was definitely the right decision for us! Yes it was tiring, and it is even moreso now that my daughter is seven and I am pushing 52. I went through career changes during this time and started a business -- my wife's business took off. My other kids have left the house--one away at school and the other working. We sold a house in the 'burbs and bought a house right downtown.My advice: Don't look for other people's opinions on something this important. Go with your own feelings, decide if you want a child and then go for it. There is nothing wrong with being realistic but know that no battle plan survives the first encounter. There will be unexpected twists and turns. But this is life.MarkK</blockquote>