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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Desdichado" data-source="post: 5097427" data-attributes="member: 2205">There's no easy way to get over a major relationship failure.  That said, the end goal here is to move on, and there's no really good reason for delaying that objective.  Mourn if you must, but don't do it too long.  Get out there and start dating again as quickly as you can.  I don't think there's any advantage to trying to remain friends, and potentially a lot of disadvantages.  I don't know much about your situation, and nothing about you and her, but I'd guess that almost every time someone says that when they break up with someone, it's because they want to assuage their own guilt for their role in breaking up.  I'd say, "Sorry, honey, but the relationship I wanted to have with you is the one you're rejecting.  There's no room for some other relationship.  How about if you're breaking up with me, then break up already and move on?  That's what I intend to do, and trying to build a friendship out of the ashes of the relationship that we tried to have is only going to make that all the more difficult."I mean, presumably you don't hate her for what she did, and you can tell her that (if it's true) but I've never really heard of a failed romance leading to a great friendship.  I'm sure that it happens from time to time, but mostly it's just a fruitless and ultimately probably damaging exercise.  I wouldn't bother with it.</blockquote>