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Message: <blockquote data-quote="el-remmen" data-source="post: 9290227" data-attributes="member: 11">I have a player who prefaces nearly every one of her social encounters with "This is the part of the game I am not good at." I think she just has trouble coming up with the right thing to say on the fly and probably feels a little self-conscious despite playing with a table of friends who include her husband (I sometimes wonder if playing with total strangers might ironically make it easier for her). As such, while I appreciate her few attempts at first-person role play and try to get out of the way when she unconsciously slips into that mode of play, I totally accept that the vast of majority of the time she will more likely say something like, "I try to convince the merchant to give me the information by explaining that if we succeed at defeating the bandits, he will have an easier time importing goods to sell."During our last session that involved a very long combat that also involved attempts at negotiations to cease hostilities or at least figure out what the enemies were even doing there, she struggled knowing how to best phrase her character (a druid) calling out to the enemy druid in Druidic Cant in attempts to learn something about what was going on. Part of the issue was figuring out how to ask something without revealing too much about her own group and their goals. . . I suggested she poll the group out of character for what to say and how to word it.Would I like for her to do more 1st person RP and be quicker on her feet with it? Sure.Is it fair of me to expect it from her? No, I don't think it is.Is it okay for me to encourage it and give positive reinforcement when she does? I think so.But would it be fair of me to penalize her for her "3rd person" stance when she doesn't? Absolutely not.Then again, this feeling is influenced by a memory of my being a jerky DM to a new (to us) player who joined our group like 25 years ago who was not into doing first person RP and ended up ghosting the game and that I regret to this day and am mortified whenever I recall it (and wish I still had that person's contact info, so I could apologize).</blockquote>

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