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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Mistwell" data-source="post: 6400252" data-attributes="member: 2525">We don't have a lot of these sorts of issues with gaming. But in marriage this can crop up a lot.  There are simply a lot of things that don't lend themselves to a compromise within a particular issue and instead involve trading issues.  For instance, if my daughter wakes up in the middle of the night, we take turns putting her back to bed.  It would make no sense if we both get up and lose sleep putting her back to bed, and it actually goes slower rather than faster if we both try to do it.  So we compromise by one person doing 100% of it one time, and the other doing 100% the next time.  And a lot of issues are like that, from dishes to making meals, etc..My point is, it's quite frequent that you don't get what you want but the other person does, with marriage compromises.  But, next time it will be reversed.  Also, sometimes who "wins" will depend on who really cares a lot more about that issue than the other, too.  For instance, my wife despises killing spiders, but while I don't like it, it's not nearly as big a deal for me. So, I kill all the spiders.  And there are things she does that I really despise and she is just mildly bothered by them.There are lots of issues where you can't just split it down the middle to find compromise in that particular thing, and need to trade-off with a future issue.  Compromise isn't always about both people getting what they want with each individual issue.</blockquote>

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