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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Celebrim" data-source="post: 4992865" data-attributes="member: 4937">Speaking as a former 3 year old, no it isn't - at least not in the long run.  At least speaking for myself, nothing so irritates a child as realizing that his victory is hollow because he's been allowed to win.  If he doesn't realize how he's been cheated, sure, he'll have the thrill of victory, but if he actually cared finds you out, he's not likely to be happy about it.  And if he didn't actually care, he's not likely to be bothered by being what you consider 'crushed'.  In that case, he's probably not competing with you at all and may not even understand the concept. If you let him win, he's been cheated out of a fair competition.  He's been disrespected as a competitor.  He's been lied to.Someone criticized Dash for not winning the final race.  I agree.  When dash threw the race, that was cheating because Dash had decieved and disrespected the other competitors.  If Dash no longer felt the need to win, he shouldn't have competed.I used to play soccer in high school.  I wasn't that good, but I enjoyed playing.  Occasionally, we got crushed.  I should have been quite put out though if the other team hadn't kept playing their hardest right up to the final minute.  I can hold my head up high in defeat, but only if you don't look down on me.  Play me hard as a mark of respect.  I suspect that this feeling is close to universal.  Time and time again we get stories of some down on their luck school, or small school punching above their weight, getting thumped hard by a bigger program, and time and time again there is an outcry by the parents about how this was 'unfair', 'mean', 'bad form', and so forth.  Interestingly, you pretty much never here that from the players who are never as upset about it as the parents or our self appointed gaurdians are.I used to play scholar's bowl in high school.  We went to a national competition one year after placing second in the state, and we got thumped hard by the eventual winner - a team from Durham NC that had two Jepordy Teen champions on it.  We got crushed.  It was humbling.  But it wasn't humiliating because the other team played their best rather than treating us like 3 year olds who had to have our feeling protected.If you want to play a game with your 3 year old nephew where the goal is 'fun', then I suggest you find a game that you can compete more as equals than floor hockey.  I get beat by my 4 year olds in 'Monkey Madness', 'Disney Yatzee', and so forth.</blockquote>

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