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Message: <blockquote data-quote="The Shaman" data-source="post: 5519861" data-attributes="member: 26473">No, I'd politely say, "Thanks very much for the invitation to play, but this really isn't my cup of tea. I apprecaite the opportunity to hang out, and I wish you the best of luck with your game."If the referee is planning a "grand story," complete with metagaming and flashback sequences, I think my suggestion to not do that is probably less respectful than politely bowing out.There is a point at which gamers are better off not playing together, Geek Social Fallacies notwithstanding.I can't say how other referees do this, but I do exactly that when I'm behind the screen; I lay out how I run things, and make sure the players have the opportunity to make an informed choice to play, before we start creating characters.Thanks for twisting my words from, "I'll politely excuse myself," to "I'll storm off in an outraged huff."No, it's direct, honest, and respectful way of saying, "We have different tastes in our recreational interests."A friend of mine and I are both enjoy being outdoors. He likes water skiiing and his motor home; I like kayaking and backpacking. The ways in which we enjoy spending time outdoors are very different; when he invited me to go water skiing, I politely passed, and though he says he'd like to go backpacking sometime, he's never actually followed through on any of the trips I've taken to which he's been invited.It doesn't make us not friends; it makes us friends with interests we don't share. This is how grown-ups handle differences of opinion.It would have to be a dungeon master with whom I'm familiar and whose playstyle is otherwise compatible with mine, a referee and not a 'storyteller' - it wouldn't be anything like what AKoG outlines above.Mostly it would be for the novelty of starting with literally nothing and seeing what my character can do from there, not the first "plot point" in some "grand story."</blockquote>

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