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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Janx" data-source="post: 5188900" data-attributes="member: 8835">From a strictly tactical standpoint, A made several mistakes, one of which was not being certain of the allegiance of C to B.  Generally, it's a bad idea to bad mouth the friend of C to C.On the "Mind your own business" point, I think thats overly simplisitic given the complex nature of human relationships.  Firstly, C may be an involuntary participant.  If A and C are friends and are talking, and A starts ranting about B, suddenly C has been forced into being a keepr of secrets.Nextly, what is C to do when questioned directly by B about the topic?  C may feel they have no choice but to sharre the information, espeically given a friendship.To be a little less vague, one of the incidents appears to have occurred as follows:A, B and C are all friends.  A introduced B to C.B & C have been hanging out more, as A has been unavailable for many monthsA asked B and C to go with A to get a Tatoo.Months earlier, B and D had advised against the specific Tattoo.A had a fair amount to drink that nightA, B, and C visited 2 shops that B would recommend.the 2 shops were unavailable to do the jobB pointed out there was a 3rd shop across the highway and that B knew nothing else about itA, B & C went to the 3rd shopA got the tattoo that A asked forthe tattoo was a bad design and done poorlyA few weeks later, A tells C that A is mad at B for recommending the shop and tattoo.A has also been acting rudely to C and B at times during this phaseSlightly later B asks C if there's anything wrong with AC, having been slighted again by A and feeling awkward the whole time since hearing this news from A, confides in B what was told.That's really hard to write without using genders and pronouns, BTW.Now I know all 3 parties. I had not heard from A on any of this, or since before this all began.I know that C really did not like hearing A talk bad about B, especially as it contradicted what C witnessed that night.I know that A is bi-polar and had several instances of rudely treating both B and C (which after that night was all by telephone)I know that B was sensing something was off in the relationship with A since that nightI don't think C did it for spite, so much as tired of holding back this information and feeling bad about it as B was wondering what was going on.Since the revelation, B and C decided to stop talking to A, as it seemed that A only called when A wanted something, and never expressed interest in them.  Yesterday, A finally actually left a voice mail, asking if anything was wrong.  So B finally called back and explained.  Later that day, B & C hung out for a bit with A, and A gave C the cold shoulder.Apparently A is mad at C for blabbing.I'm inclined to think that A put C in a position that A had no right to, therefore C may have had a right or obligation to reveal to B.To my mind, it's certainly a grey area, hence why I was curious to both what people think, and to what so called "experts" think.</blockquote>

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