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Message: <blockquote data-quote="LightPhoenix" data-source="post: 5190480" data-attributes="member: 115">Firstly, there seem to be a number of poor decisions on everyone's part here.  The fact that there was drinking involved compounds the issue.  In fact, the only people that I see acted relatively ethically were the two tattoo parlors that, IMO, sound like they deliberately refused service based on A being drunk.Secondly, there seems to be a bit of a moral* lapse in friendship on the part of B and C in the first place for recommending places while A was drunk as opposed to recommending he hold off.  You didn't mention it, but B and C were most likely also drunk, so perhaps it was not as much a lapse as poor judgment.Finally, there seems to be a bit of hypocrisy on the part of A.  He's a big boy (or girl), and part of that involves accepting responsibility for your actions, drunk or not.  To blame B and C is more than a bit puerile, in my opinion.All that said, I wouldn't call what happened tattling.  I would call it communication.  No one is really getting in trouble (as a result of things said after the fact).  Personally, and I can only speak for me on this, I think it's a good thing that everything is out there.  It sounds like the friendship was on its way towards breaking down anyway, but at least everyone is clear on where they stand with the others.Cheating is something that is highly situational, and highly dependent on experience and mindset.  It really deserves a topic all of its own, and I think it muddies the issue brought up by Janx in the original post and follow-up.My personal position is that I don't really meddle in relationships.  That said, if I find out a friend is being cheated on, I feel I have a moral obligation stemming from our friendship to tell him or her.I agree there are definitely things beyond hurt feelings - I worked as a lab tech in a hospital for a few years, and can attest to STDs being a serious issue.  When you run a thousand** various STD tests a day, it becomes something you are aware of.* I feel that friends have certain moral obligations to each other.  By morality here, I mean a system of ethics and actions defined by a) culture/society, and b) overlapping of individual ethical beliefs.** Not an exaggeration.  Semi-automated systems and quick testing are wonderful.</blockquote>

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