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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Bird Of Play" data-source="post: 8395087" data-attributes="member: 7032193">This is what I'm worried about and what got me a bit bitter: no hint whatsoever that he'd suddenly want to leave the group, and we all seemed to be having a great time so far.I hope his comment about finding a fourth player was either a reasonable suggestion or a spur of the moment reply, but not the hint that he wants to leave us like that.Now, to reply about the general situation. My rule is that all I ask out of my players is 3 hours a week. Nothing more. I hardly talk to them about DnD related stuff outside of that weekly session, and I'm very open for rescheduling.But when those 3 hours a week happen, I expect my players to commit to those 3 hours a week. If you can't commit 3 hours a week to the game, just don't ask to join the group or be very upfront about how you cannot do that on a semi-regular basis. We're living people, not a Netflix program you can choose to watch or not. It's rude to cancel at the last minute when the other guys have made sure to keep their evening free.All in all, this is more about how the first time it happened, I didn't care at all and just thought that sometimes stuff happens, and we've all postponed the game and that's it.But this time there's a suspicion on my side that he was making up excuses. I hope I'm wrong.Oh well, mulling about it doesn't help. I tried to reach out but he didn't reach back. We'll see what happens; I can control his actions and I have to get over how bummed I am by them.Again, thanks everyone for giving me advice and sharing your opinion. This was really nice!</blockquote>

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