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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Dausuul" data-source="post: 8395336" data-attributes="member: 58197">Wait, what? So four different people are unable to attend on four different sessions, for four sensible reasons, and then one person "just doesn't feel like playing." Whose commitment are we questioning here? All of these people? Just the one who "didn't feel like playing?" If the latter, what does this have to do with OP's situation?Or am I misunderstanding the hypothetical, and this is actually the same person missing all these sessions?Sure, that makes perfect sense. But "frequent absences" does not require a lot of second-guessing or trying to suss out anybody's level of commitment. You just have to decide--how many absences from a given player are you willing to put up with? And then you make your decision based on that.If somebody can only make 1 session in 4, they may have the best reason in the world for having to miss the other 3, and you could still conclude that you aren't willing to play with someone who can't make it to 75% of the games. And when you sit down to have that conversation, it's not about "commitment," it's about what the group needs and what the person can provide. If those don't line up, for whatever reason, then with the best will in the world, it may be time to part ways.In OP's case, you have two data points, which isn't much to go on. But it's safe to say Player A will miss more sessions--maybe a lot, maybe just a few--and OP might decide it's too many. Which is a reasonable decision to make! But there's no need to cast doubt on Player A's stated reasons for not attending.</blockquote>

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