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Message: <blockquote data-quote="spidertrag" data-source="post: 2379018" data-attributes="member: 7058">Well, just a few minutes ago, my wife informs me of her unhappiness & basically wants a divorce---I know her mom will be dance of joy. I suggested a marriage counseler, but she doesnt think that would help. Seven years down the drain. Its convienent that her mom is picking up our daughter for my daughter's yearly visit with her 'Nano'. During the 5 weeks my daughter (who is 5) is away, we are suppose to get the following done; get my car fixed, get bills updated, find new living arrangements, my wife getting a paying job for the first time in 6 years, etc....I also know that i'll have to get my direct deposit changed since it goes to an account that has only my wife's & her mother's name on it <img src="http://www.enworld.org/forum/images/smilies/nervous.png"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":heh:" title="Nervous Laugh    :heh:" data-shortname=":heh:" /> .I'm not to surprised in a way. There's been obvious tension between us for a while---I would come home from work & most of the time she would be going out the door to go work for the evangelical church she is a minister/armour bearer of. Her best friend is the leader/prophetess of this church & they spend alot of time together----hell just a few weeks ago, when her friend & her husband were to travel to colorado for some speaking thing & the church didnt raise the money, my wife gave them the money---without telling me---but, when i asked for some running money, i get snapped at & told that it had to be spent on bills & we didnt have enough for 'extras'---(man, i cant think of the last time  i bought a game book :\ ). My intuition from the day so many years ago when i met her friends was that they are users---i still believe that---& there have definately been times when my family has done without so that they could have. I do love my wife---& I want her to be happy, even if it is without me---i've always known that i would die old & aloneSo, with all that dancing around in me head let me see if i can list some pros & cons:Cons (that come to mind---more to come no doubt <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f641.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":(" title="Frown    :("  data-smilie="3"data-shortname=":(" /> )1)Depression---this is already 'in the works'---especially since i wont get to see my youngun grow up everyday2)Well, after i get my car fixed, i'll probably have to move in w/my mom until i can find a place of my own & have to travel almost 100 miles/day to commute to work.3)Probably get screwed when it comes to child support/alimony.Pros (this list is in flux no doubt <img src="http://www.enworld.org/forum/images/smilies/paranoid.png"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":uhoh:" title="Paranoid    :uhoh:" data-shortname=":uhoh:" /> )1)Wont be told I'm going to Hell because I play D&D.2)Will be able to join a game group if i can find one.3)Will be able to buy stuff! (I hope <img src="http://www.enworld.org/forum/images/smilies/nervous.png"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":heh:" title="Nervous Laugh    :heh:" data-shortname=":heh:" />) I will make sure my daughter is taken care of, but I hope i can get away from having to give to much to the ex4)Wont have to deal with my ex's user friends (yippie! <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" /> )5)Can finally get some pet scorpions! <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f60e.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":cool:" title="Cool    :cool:"  data-smilie="6"data-shortname=":cool:" /> When I have the money <img src="http://www.enworld.org/forum/images/smilies/nervous.png"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":heh:" title="Nervous Laugh    :heh:" data-shortname=":heh:" /> 6)Will finally loose some weight as depression sets in & my diet becomes a mix of caffeine, nicotiene, & Alanis Morriset.Obviously all i've posted is colored by my perception----i am, after all the one that has made my wife unhappy <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f615.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":confused:" title="Confused    :confused:"  data-smilie="5"data-shortname=":confused:" /></blockquote>

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