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<blockquote data-quote="Sejs" data-source="post: 2379407" data-attributes="member: 4910">If you've held a steady job for the last 6 years and your wife hasn't worked a day in all that time, chances are good that if you wanted custody of your daughter, you would be awarded it.&nbsp; Kids get to live with the parent who can provide the most stable and loving environment for them.&nbsp; Not working a paying job for half a decade and giving away money that's supposed to be for the family to a religeous group time and again do not spell out &quot;able to provide etc, etc&quot; in the eyes of most family law practitioners.If you end up with your daughter, you'd still pay Spousal Support because that's based on relative income, but your wife would be the one paying Child Support to you.&nbsp; Frank offers some good advice, some very bad.&nbsp; To break it down:&quot;Get a lawyer NOW...&quot; -This is good advice.&nbsp; You want to consult with a family lawyer so you know just what's going on and what to expect.&nbsp; Do not play it by ear or you could get burned.&quot;...Demand the child be returned or file kidnapping charges.&quot;-This is Grade A capital 'b' BAD advice.&nbsp; Do not, I repeat not threaten the other side at all.&nbsp; Consult with a lawyer on what should be done regarding custody of your daughter, but do not do anything so stupid as threaten the other side or file kidnapping charges.&nbsp; The only thing it would serve to do would be to damage your character.&nbsp; You need to remain as calm as you possibly can and think with your head and not your heart.&nbsp; You need to look at the things you do like a judge will when he's reviewing your case.&nbsp; Take a step back from your situations and play it smart, not passionate.The thing about the paystubs is solid advice, too. Make sure you can account for how your money was handled, where it went, when it went there, and in what ammounts.&nbsp; Unless you plan on just letting it all go, you'll want to have yourself covered as far as financial documentation is concerned.&nbsp; Again, talk to a lawyer.&nbsp; They'll be able to help.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Sejs, post: 2379407, member: 4910"] If you've held a steady job for the last 6 years and your wife hasn't worked a day in all that time, chances are good that if you wanted custody of your daughter, you would be awarded it. Kids get to live with the parent who can provide the most stable and loving environment for them. Not working a paying job for half a decade and giving away money that's supposed to be for the family to a religeous group time and again do not spell out "able to provide etc, etc" in the eyes of most family law practitioners. If you end up with your daughter, you'd still pay Spousal Support because that's based on relative income, but your wife would be the one paying Child Support to you. Frank offers some good advice, some very bad. To break it down: [b][i]"Get a lawyer NOW..."[/i][/b] -This is good advice. You want to consult with a family lawyer so you know just what's going on and what to expect. Do not play it by ear or you could get burned. [b][i]"...Demand the child be returned or file kidnapping charges."[/i][/b] -This is Grade A capital 'b' [b]BAD[/b] advice. Do not, I repeat [b]not[/b] threaten the other side at all. Consult with a lawyer on what should be done regarding custody of your daughter, but do not do anything so stupid as threaten the other side or file kidnapping charges. The only thing it would serve to do would be to damage your character. You need to remain as calm as you possibly can and think with your head and not your heart. You need to look at the things you do like a judge will when he's reviewing your case. Take a step back from your situations and play it [i]smart[/i], not [i]passionate[/i]. The thing about the paystubs is solid advice, too. Make sure you can account for how your money was handled, where it went, when it went there, and in what ammounts. Unless you plan on just letting it all go, you'll want to have yourself covered as far as financial documentation is concerned. Again, talk to a lawyer. They'll be able to help. [/QUOTE]

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