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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Harmon" data-source="post: 2379829" data-attributes="member: 24357">Clear out any money you have jointly.If you owe your own home, put up a for sale sign.  Place the money from the sales of the house into an account that no one but your daughter can touch (touch after she turns 18).  This reduces your net worth, and makes you look like a better father in the eyes of the court (after all you are suppling your daughter with college money).Whatever "her people" want for child support/alamony, fight it.  A required payment will destroy you financally, you can give your daughter all the clothes she wants, buy boxes of food and toys, and everything in the world, but if you have a required 3/4 of your pay check going to your ex and your daughter then you will never recover.Be patient and kind to your ex- remember your daughter is going to blame herself for everything that happens between her parents, that is a given, if you show open hatred towards each other then she will blame herslf for that too.Don't hope that depression will help you lose weight.  While off for an injury I gained thirty pounds.  Do yourself a favor and join a gym, when you feel like a lump of.... something, well go to the gym.  Get into school, should you go to court you can tell the judge- "I am trying to better myself, my wife didn't want me to go to school," which helps her to look more like a manipulater and reduces her chances of getting more from you.Move everything that is yours out of the house quickly, take things that are clearly hers to use as bargaining chips later- "opps, I guess I took that by mistake.  Hay, do you have my high school year book?  I would like to have that- trade you."   <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> Not sure why people view gamers as people that are going to hell.  Oh, and teach your daughter to game as soon as you can, but don't tell your ex about it.All of this was told to me by a former co worker that had been through it three times.Sorry to hear about your coming seperation.  Its something I hope to avoid, and never go through.  Good luck.</blockquote>

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