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Message: <blockquote data-quote="MNblockhead" data-source="post: 9524522" data-attributes="member: 6796661">On the OP topic, not only do I believe it is important to treat people respectfully, but I think it is even more important to have the discipline to remain polite in the face of lack of politeness and even disrespect. That doesn't mean being a push over. You can be politely assertive. Sometimes people are not in a good place mentally, for a variety of reasons. Responding in kind rarely improves the situation.Further, at my age, some things just aren't worth the drama and wasted time. I'm lucky to be in a good place financially these days, so getting worked up and spending hours of my time over even a few hundred dollars, just isn't worth it for me. I realize for others, that may be the difference in being able to afford groceries or pay the rent, but I think most people would be better off occasionally taking a small loss than expending so much unpleasant effort out of principle.One downside of this philosophy is that I'll often write off a vendor or service provider without giving them a second chance or even feedback. But I just don't feel inclined to bother. I would rather move on and find places and people I like and spread the word about them. I've gotten pretty good at quickly dropping vendors and service providers who are less than stellar until I find good fits and tend to remain a loyal customer for years.</blockquote>