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<blockquote data-quote="3catcircus" data-source="post: 2869941" data-attributes="member: 16077">Be Flexible...The best advice I have is to be flexible.&nbsp; As my own personal example, I played in a fairly long (2+ yrs) game thursday nights (7:30pm ~ midnightish).&nbsp; I was willing to get home at 1am and put up with a lack of sleep on friday going in to saturday.&nbsp; Then we (the wife and I) had a child.For a few months, I didn't game at all.&nbsp; I also realized that coming home at 1am was no longer an option - I wanted to be home to play with my son, participate in bath/bottle/bedtime, etc.&nbsp; I also realized how much I didn't like being exhausted friday and sleeping in on saturday mornings, wasting half the morning.&nbsp; So, I compromised - I found a new group and we play tuesday nights until 9pm.&nbsp; Granted, I miss one day of not playing with my son, but I also get home at a decent hour and am not tired on the weekends.&nbsp; I also found a way to not feel guilty about spending time *preparing* for the weekly game.&nbsp; Immediately after we put the boy in his crib for the night, I stay upstairs in the computer room with the baby monitor until he is asleep - I can get game-related stuff done and my wife doesn't have to rush upstairs to calm my son if he fusses while trying to fall asleep.Figure out what is the most important thing to you in regards to gaming.&nbsp; Work around it.&nbsp; Do you have to play on a particular day?&nbsp; At a particular time?&nbsp; At a particular location? With a particular game system?&nbsp; Put out ads here on ENWorld, on the WotC website, in your local FLGS.&nbsp; Attend RPGA gamedays or conventions if you can.&nbsp; Heck, even just hanging out at your FLGS can work - I once ran a game for over a year at my FLGS - I got to DM, people got to play, and the store got more business.&nbsp; If you are meeting a &quot;stranger&quot; - meet in a non-game situation.&nbsp; Maybe meet at the FLGS, or meet for lunch.&nbsp; Make sure you discuss outside interests.&nbsp; Yeah, this sounds like internet dating rules, but you'll be much happier knowing that someone you want to play an rpg with isn't an unwashed 38-yr old mouth-breather living in his mom's basement and working at the local kwik-ee-mart.Be flexible - my current game consists of me and 6 other guys ranging in age from early 20s to early 30s, blue-collar and white-collar.Be flexible - try a PBEM or online game.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="3catcircus, post: 2869941, member: 16077"] [b]Be Flexible...[/b] The best advice I have is to be flexible. As my own personal example, I played in a fairly long (2+ yrs) game thursday nights (7:30pm ~ midnightish). I was willing to get home at 1am and put up with a lack of sleep on friday going in to saturday. Then we (the wife and I) had a child. For a few months, I didn't game at all. I also realized that coming home at 1am was no longer an option - I wanted to be home to play with my son, participate in bath/bottle/bedtime, etc. I also realized how much I didn't like being exhausted friday and sleeping in on saturday mornings, wasting half the morning. So, I compromised - I found a new group and we play tuesday nights until 9pm. Granted, I miss one day of not playing with my son, but I also get home at a decent hour and am not tired on the weekends. I also found a way to not feel guilty about spending time *preparing* for the weekly game. Immediately after we put the boy in his crib for the night, I stay upstairs in the computer room with the baby monitor until he is asleep - I can get game-related stuff done and my wife doesn't have to rush upstairs to calm my son if he fusses while trying to fall asleep. Figure out what is the most important thing to you in regards to gaming. Work around it. Do you have to play on a particular day? At a particular time? At a particular location? With a particular game system? Put out ads here on ENWorld, on the WotC website, in your local FLGS. Attend RPGA gamedays or conventions if you can. Heck, even just hanging out at your FLGS can work - I once ran a game for over a year at my FLGS - I got to DM, people got to play, and the store got more business. If you are meeting a "stranger" - meet in a non-game situation. Maybe meet at the FLGS, or meet for lunch. Make sure you discuss outside interests. Yeah, this sounds like internet dating rules, but you'll be much happier knowing that someone you want to play an rpg with isn't an unwashed 38-yr old mouth-breather living in his mom's basement and working at the local kwik-ee-mart. Be flexible - my current game consists of me and 6 other guys ranging in age from early 20s to early 30s, blue-collar and white-collar. Be flexible - try a PBEM or online game. [/QUOTE]

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