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<blockquote data-quote="Ruin Explorer" data-source="post: 8637207" data-attributes="member: 18">Just as an aside, and hope this doesn't read as an attack, because it was hard for me to come to personally, and took me a while, just because someone or society is pressuring you, does not mean digging your heels in or being difficult is inherently right, honest, smart, decent, admirable or anything like that. It feels like maybe it should be, but it isn't. It's certainly as bad to instinctually dig your heels in as it is to mindlessly capitulate to pressure. You've got to find a way to look at how things might be without the pressure, and see if things make sense.Once I started doing that it became obvious sometimes I actually see the point, and sometimes, you don't. I think with this issue, whilst the pressure may cause one to want to be contrarian, a cold, sober analysis of things will suggest that's not the best approach.I guess what I'm saying is, it's not a binary. It's not resist or agree mindlessly. You find your footing, think about it for yourself. Even if you still feel like you disagree, it's likely your disagreement will be more specific/precise.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Ruin Explorer, post: 8637207, member: 18"] Just as an aside, and hope this doesn't read as an attack, because it was hard for me to come to personally, and took me a while, just because someone or society is pressuring you, does [I]not[/I] mean digging your heels in or being difficult is inherently right, honest, smart, decent, admirable or anything like that. It feels like maybe it should be, but it isn't. It's certainly as bad to instinctually dig your heels in as it is to mindlessly capitulate to pressure. You've got to find a way to look at how things might be without the pressure, and see if things make sense. Once I started doing that it became obvious sometimes I actually see the point, and sometimes, you don't. I think with this issue, whilst the pressure may cause one to want to be contrarian, a cold, sober analysis of things will suggest that's not the best approach. I guess what I'm saying is, it's not a binary. It's not resist or agree mindlessly. You find your footing, think about it for yourself. Even if you still feel like you disagree, it's likely your disagreement will be more specific/precise. [/QUOTE]

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