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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Djeta Thernadier" data-source="post: 1490453" data-attributes="member: 12043">I'm sorry. Sounds like these people were a bunch of _______. (fill in the blank)I deleted my LJ because I decided venting my frsutrations with people in a public arena was childish and silly. (And in fact, very rarely vented about individuals on it anyway; groups maybe, but not specific people who had access to it). That's just lame, junior high type behavior. I knew a bunch of people like that once. I didn't game with them (the one woman in the group made it quite clear that I was not to infringe upon her men). Eventually, they all just ditched me. I am also not very good in social situations, and have a hard time making friends. I've also been through an ugly divorce that left me with massive debt (I was stuck paying a $1400 a month rent on my own for a year amongst other things) no car, etc. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I know it sounds cheesy, but I know what it's like. Also, for a group to be more than just a gaming group, I definately agree with planning something like a BBQ, or a movie day with them once in a while. And try to stay positive. When you meet a new group, don't mention the bad stuff in your life to excess (that's what online friends are for <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> ) since that tends to throw people off at first, until they really know you and can see where you're coming from. If anyone asks why you split from your old group, just tell them you had schedule conflicts or different gaming styles. Things WILL get better for you. I know it might not always feel like it, but it will. Check gamers seeking gamers on here, there are a lot of people in Buffalo. Feel free to PM or email me or IM me if you want to talk. I'm not in NY so I can't really help you with finding a NY group, but I'll certainly listen if you need to vent.~Sheri  I too have sort of stopped feeling sympathy for people who have bad lives AND REFUSE to take any steps to better themselves. I know people like that and I have been in bad situations, and though it takes time, sometimes, I always end up making the most of it and I don't whine. Much. But I'm also not naive enough to think that people don't sometimes need to vent, everyone needs to vent sometimes. Most people can't deal with a whiny, always moody person who brings the whole group down. But these people (if what she says is true) seem like they are just immature. The whole LJ thing really indicates that. And it is certainly possible for a person to need a ride to and from a game without annoying the other players. We have a guy in our group who doesn't drive and someone always picks him up or drives him home. It's not a big deal. AuroraGyps doesn't come off as whining here and honestly, I think your post was rather harsh. I've been there and I got through it and I know AuroraGyps will get through it too. I think it's pretty clear that AuroraGyps IS actively trying to better her situation. Trust me, I know someone who constantly whines about her life and situation and yet never takes a step to fix it and gets snippy when advice is offered. That is MUCH different from what AuroraGyps is doing here. She is asking for advice, and trying to get back on her feet.</blockquote>

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