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Message: <blockquote data-quote="StalkingBlue" data-source="post: 1492210" data-attributes="member: 645">AG - First, best of luck to you, sounds like you're going through some difficult times. You'll pull through and you're right, things often look weird when you are in the middle of a big change in your life.  It's a hard thing to deal with when a group doesn't want you around anymore and especially difficult when you don't feel secure in your life, but it happens.  It can happen to anyone, it doesn't mean that you're unfit to be friends with people, only that this particular set didn't want you around. Unlike other people who have posted to this thread, I do not believe that anyone is entitled to other people's company or friendship - whether they liked having around to game, hearing about your problems, taking you along to the cinema etc. is all their own business.  There's nothing unfair about it and you don't have a claim to it being otherwise. The one thing I think is unfortunate is that apparently they talked about you behind your back in an unfriendly and exaggerated manner (again, let's face it, that is something quite normal for people to do when they have difficulty with someone! Haven't you done that? I know I have) - but then they were tactless enough to leave their messages around on the LJ where apparently you were able to access and read them.    I can see why all that hurts you a lot and that you are aching to answer back.  But those were words not meant for you, likely exaggerated because people were venting, and most probably not even meant quite the way they were said once emotion has blown off.  So shrug it off.  It's hard but it's necessary.  You're making things harder for yourself - and for no one else! - by going back over it again and again. You have to see that it's just those people's opinion, not a value judgemnt on you as a person.  You'll find a group that suits you better I'm sure.  Don't let one group gone bad persuade you otherwise.  And please, please don't let people on these boards persuade you that that group was withholding something from you that you were entitled to. They were not, and thinking otherwise is dangerous when you try to make new friends.  How close people want to get to you is their own choice.  Getting invited to gaming isn't a carte blanche for being included in their lives.  Best wishes for going forward.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /></blockquote>

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