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<blockquote data-quote="Milieu" data-source="post: 9021490" data-attributes="member: 7041560">If your approach to talking is predicated on the other person being clueless or a liar and assuming that talking is a dead end, it's not a surprise that it doesn't work out for you.He told you multiple times he wanted to have the human kingdom attack and fix everything, and you're trying to avoid that. From his perspective, maybe he thinks you're the one who's clueless or a liar. This is why you need to talk, to try to clear up the misunderstanding.If he's already saying the princess sits in her room doing nothing but waiting to talk to the king, this will only annoy him and make the issue worse. Especially if you don't talk to him and he doesn't understand what you're trying to force him to do.These are just being petty, especially the last one. The best thing to do is to talk to him, not try solve it in game in a contrived, heavy-handed way (but which still doesn't tell him what you want him to do other than &quot;not that&quot;).Don't confront him. Don't accuse him of lying. Don't even make it about him. Say something like, &quot;I'm confused. I thought we agreed this game would take all summer. But if the human kingdom attacks and fixes everything now, it seems like the game's over already; I didn't make any plans for what comes after she retakes the throne. What's supposed to happen the rest of the summer? Do you want her to go on quests as the queen? Or were you expecting more obstacles that you need to clear out before the humans agree to help? We seem to have a misunderstanding, so help me understand where you're coming from with this.&quot;If you absolutely must do it solely in game (even though you really shouldn't), say it through the king. &quot;What's in it for me? Why should I care whether you're restored to the throne? Unless... [Insert quest to hold up the princess's end of the bargain]&quot; Or &quot;I'd love to help you, but we have our own problems. [Insert quest to fix their problems and free up the army/other resources needed to attack the elf kingdom]&quot;.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Milieu, post: 9021490, member: 7041560"] If your approach to talking is predicated on the other person being clueless or a liar and assuming that talking is a dead end, it's not a surprise that it doesn't work out for you. He told you multiple times he wanted to have the human kingdom attack and fix everything, and you're trying to avoid that. From his perspective, maybe he thinks you're the one who's clueless or a liar. This is why you need to talk, to try to clear up the misunderstanding. If he's already saying the princess sits in her room doing nothing but waiting to talk to the king, this will only annoy him and make the issue worse. Especially if you don't talk to him and he doesn't understand what you're trying to force him to do. These are just being petty, especially the last one. The best thing to do is to talk to him, not try solve it in game in a contrived, heavy-handed way (but which still doesn't tell him what you want him to do other than "not that"). Don't confront him. Don't accuse him of lying. Don't even make it about him. Say something like, "I'm confused. I thought we agreed this game would take all summer. But if the human kingdom attacks and fixes everything now, it seems like the game's over already; I didn't make any plans for what comes after she retakes the throne. What's supposed to happen the rest of the summer? Do you want her to go on quests as the queen? Or were you expecting more obstacles that you need to clear out before the humans agree to help? We seem to have a misunderstanding, so help me understand where you're coming from with this." If you absolutely [I]must[/I] do it solely in game (even though you really shouldn't), say it through the king. "What's in it for me? Why should I care whether you're restored to the throne? Unless... [Insert quest to hold up the princess's end of the bargain]" Or "I'd love to help you, but we have our own problems. [Insert quest to fix their problems and free up the army/other resources needed to attack the elf kingdom]". [/QUOTE]

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