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<blockquote data-quote="EzekielRaiden" data-source="post: 9746657" data-attributes="member: 6790260">Whether or not it is common is, frankly, irrelevant.It's that the request being made is to be given carte blanche to potentially do this. It's asking for absolute power with zero accountability, and then being surprised when reasonable folks say, &quot;Um, how about...no?&quot;Unless and until you have enough of a conversation with someone to truly demonstrate that you aren't asking for absolute power--that you genuinely only want to add more richness to the experience, that any possible risk of power loss is exclusively meant to make the experience better, not worse--a lot of people are going to see, &quot;So, I can mess with your character at any time, for any reason, and you just have to live with it, right?&quot;Trust is not automatic. It is earned. Asking up-front for &quot;I get to treat everything you love about playing your character as my personal chew toy&quot;, even if you would never actually do that, is a really, really, really big ask.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="EzekielRaiden, post: 9746657, member: 6790260"] Whether or not it is common is, frankly, irrelevant. It's that the request being made is to be given [I]carte blanche[/I] to [I]potentially[/I] do this. It's asking for absolute power with zero accountability, and then being surprised when reasonable folks say, "Um, how about...no?" Unless and until you have enough of a conversation with someone to truly demonstrate that you [I]aren't[/I] asking for absolute power--that you genuinely only want to add more richness to the experience, that any possible risk of power loss is exclusively meant to make the experience better, not worse--a lot of people are going to see, "So, I can mess with your character at any time, for any reason, and you just have to live with it, right?" Trust is not automatic. It is earned. Asking up-front for "I get to treat everything you love about playing your character as my personal chew toy", [I]even if you would never actually do that[/I], is a really, really, really big ask. [/QUOTE]

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