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<blockquote data-quote="Merkuri" data-source="post: 3031239" data-attributes="member: 41321">I used to be one of those girls.&nbsp; In college I went out with a guy for almost a year and a half (though some of that time was summer vacation when we were several states away from each other).&nbsp; He was super-critical of everything I did and made me feel like crud.&nbsp; One time he actually broke down crying because he realized something about my personality (long story).&nbsp; I tried to break up with him once, but he apologized and begged my forgiveness and I took him back.&nbsp; Another time I broke down crying in front of him because he was trying to pressure me into something I wasn't ready to do.&nbsp; His response to that was to lay off it for that day and resume the next.&nbsp; I could go on and on about the things that should've lit the light in my head that this guy was a piece of dung.It wasn't an ego thing, though (at least, not consciously).&nbsp; It was that I liked being in a relationship.&nbsp; The man I was with I wasn't so hot on, but I thought I needed the relationship.&nbsp; I was trying to change him, and he was trying to change me, but eventually I came to the realization that it was just not worth it.&nbsp; The person you date should make you feel good about yourself, and if you can't find that then you're better off alone.I learned my lesson, though, and am with a great guy who I feel like I can be myself around without worrying about being criticized.&nbsp; He loves me for who I am, and I love him for who he is.&nbsp; Oh, and we're both nerds. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink&nbsp; &nbsp; ;)"&nbsp; data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />&nbsp; Love you Awayfarer! <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin&nbsp; &nbsp; :D"&nbsp; data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" /></blockquote>

[QUOTE="Merkuri, post: 3031239, member: 41321"] I used to be one of those girls. In college I went out with a guy for almost a year and a half (though some of that time was summer vacation when we were several states away from each other). He was super-critical of everything I did and made me feel like crud. One time he actually broke down crying because he realized something about my personality (long story). I tried to break up with him once, but he apologized and begged my forgiveness and I took him back. Another time I broke down crying in front of him because he was trying to pressure me into something I wasn't ready to do. His response to that was to lay off it for that day and resume the next. I could go on and on about the things that should've lit the light in my head that this guy was a piece of dung. It wasn't an ego thing, though (at least, not consciously). It was that I liked being in a relationship. The man I was with I wasn't so hot on, but I thought I needed the relationship. I was trying to change him, and he was trying to change me, but eventually I came to the realization that it was just not worth it. The person you date should make you feel good about yourself, and if you can't find that then you're better off alone. I learned my lesson, though, and am with a great guy who I feel like I can be myself around without worrying about being criticized. He loves me for who I am, and I love him for who he is. Oh, and we're both nerds. ;) Love you Awayfarer! :D [/QUOTE]

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