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<blockquote data-quote="Man in the Funny Hat" data-source="post: 4042335" data-attributes="member: 32740">If the player really does have some form of mental disorder or developmental disability then it HASN'T been diagnosed, has it?&nbsp; If so it has to be just as frustrating to BE the individual in question as to DEAL with the individual in question.&nbsp; You have people constantly irritated at you, but you can't understand WHY.&nbsp; The anecdotes provided suggest that he may actually be GRATEFUL when he is told what he is doing wrong because his own disorders prevent him from seeing it in himself.Relatively mild as the described behavioural problems are they are nonetheless a problem.&nbsp; This individual needs PROFESSIONAL help.&nbsp; Ask him to get it.&nbsp; There may be medications or behavioral therapy or something that will help him.&nbsp; Start there.&nbsp; And regardless of his disabilities you ARE NOT obligated to put up with disruptive or problematic behavior.&nbsp; Your D&amp;D game was not formed to provide ONE individual with social interaction and therapy, but to provide several people with entertainment.&nbsp; Speak with the other players on the quiet, ask their preferences and opinions, and basically if even one other player prefers that he should be removed from the group then you get to choose which of those two players you ask to leave - the one causing the disruptions, or the one who prefers to game without having to tolerate those disruptions.If the decision is to remove the problem player then you might want to inform him that you are willing to revisit the question after he's sought professional help.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Man in the Funny Hat, post: 4042335, member: 32740"] If the player really does have some form of mental disorder or developmental disability then it HASN'T been diagnosed, has it? If so it has to be just as frustrating to BE the individual in question as to DEAL with the individual in question. You have people constantly irritated at you, but you can't understand WHY. The anecdotes provided suggest that he may actually be GRATEFUL when he is told what he is doing wrong [I]because his own disorders prevent him from seeing it in himself[/I]. Relatively mild as the described behavioural problems are they are nonetheless a problem. This individual needs PROFESSIONAL help. Ask him to get it. There may be medications or behavioral therapy or something that will help him. Start there. And regardless of his disabilities you ARE NOT obligated to put up with disruptive or problematic behavior. Your D&D game was not formed to provide ONE individual with social interaction and therapy, but to provide several people with entertainment. Speak with the other players on the quiet, ask their preferences and opinions, and basically if even one other player prefers that he should be removed from the group then you get to choose which of those two players you ask to leave - the one causing the disruptions, or the one who prefers to game without having to tolerate those disruptions. If the decision is to remove the problem player then you might want to inform him that you are willing to revisit the question after he's sought professional help. [/QUOTE]

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