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<blockquote data-quote="Rel" data-source="post: 1654723" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>What I think is this:</p><p></p><p>Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship. It can only be achieved by honesty.</p><p></p><p>That does not mean that you must be honest in your relationships. But, if you'll permit me to extend my analogy a bit, it means that, if the relationship becomes weighty, that the weight is resting on a weak cornerstone. It may well come crashing down.</p><p></p><p>Specifically, what if one of these girls you bring home turns out to be "the one"? Except that she doesn't know that you are a gamer. What if she thinks gamers ARE reprehensible and wants nothing to do with one? So now you get the choice of dumping the girl, dumping your hobby or trying to do it on the sly. Yucky choices if you ask me.</p><p></p><p>I don't condone telling her about your 14th level Sorcerer/Rogue during dinner the first night out. But I wouldn't hide my stuff in the closet if I brought her home either. If she asked about it I'd tell her the truth. Tell her that you play roleplaying games with your friends once a month or week or whenever. If she loves the game, great. If she walks out, bummer but you've avoided a later problem when the issue finally surfaces.</p><p></p><p>What'll probably happen is something in between where she'll have questions and you'll answer them and you'll talk about both your hobbies and interests and how mutual respect for them is a good thing. Just like that you're sliding comfortably into a relationship of substance. Of weight.</p><p></p><p>If you'd rather have relationships that are more shallow, the cornerstone you've got can probably take the load.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rel, post: 1654723, member: 99"] What I think is this: Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship. It can only be achieved by honesty. That does not mean that you must be honest in your relationships. But, if you'll permit me to extend my analogy a bit, it means that, if the relationship becomes weighty, that the weight is resting on a weak cornerstone. It may well come crashing down. Specifically, what if one of these girls you bring home turns out to be "the one"? Except that she doesn't know that you are a gamer. What if she thinks gamers ARE reprehensible and wants nothing to do with one? So now you get the choice of dumping the girl, dumping your hobby or trying to do it on the sly. Yucky choices if you ask me. I don't condone telling her about your 14th level Sorcerer/Rogue during dinner the first night out. But I wouldn't hide my stuff in the closet if I brought her home either. If she asked about it I'd tell her the truth. Tell her that you play roleplaying games with your friends once a month or week or whenever. If she loves the game, great. If she walks out, bummer but you've avoided a later problem when the issue finally surfaces. What'll probably happen is something in between where she'll have questions and you'll answer them and you'll talk about both your hobbies and interests and how mutual respect for them is a good thing. Just like that you're sliding comfortably into a relationship of substance. Of weight. If you'd rather have relationships that are more shallow, the cornerstone you've got can probably take the load. [/QUOTE]
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