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Message: <blockquote data-quote="I'm A Banana" data-source="post: 310339" data-attributes="member: 2067">Holy crap, everyone's gettin' all...personal. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />The advice remains generally sound for getting *any* unfamiliar person into the game, especially if they are different from the rest of the group.I probably would've responded the same way had someone wanted tips for getting guys into their games that were mostly female. Look for the nerdy types and don't let the sexual tension destroy the game.Everyone should be judged on their own terms. It's not safe to assume that because most women make better parents than most men that all women are better than all men at raising kids. It's not safe to assume that because most 13 year old girls think Lance Bass is hot that all of them do. It's not safe to assume that just because some things liked by pop culture are crap that they all are.Stereotypes and generalizations can be useful for an overall picture, and for letting you know what you may expect, but each case is drastically different. No one fits any stereotype perfectly, but some match it in one way or the other.It's a lot harder, I think, to say what anybody may act like in the game than what they'd act like in real life. Because it can be so varied, so many different angles, so many different ideas, all thrown around and coming up roses. This is especially true of genders, since so much of what is associated with a gender is flexible in Western society.I could generalize that "nerdy, bookish types generally play Wizards," but that doesn't mean that all dorks will always play wizards all the time. But it does hold true from what I've seen (one of the reasons, I think, that wizards are so well-supported in comparison to other classes...nerd types like D&D, so more play wizards than most other classes, making a bigger market for wizard-related material).The only generalizations about how women play that I can make is that "they probably tend toward female characters" in the same way that male players tend toward male characters. It's not "they have a vagina, they must play women!" It's "you play what you know, and people usually play within their own genders."I can't even say that "most of them  enjoy story," because *everyone* I know enjoys the stories I weave as a DM, and I, frankly, would be bored if there wasn't a great plot tying these together. It's not a female-specific thing; I haven't met anyone who would be happy with "you encounter a bugbear. You kill it. You open the door. You encounter three orcs. They kill one of you." type of game.Basically: girls are different than guys, but that probably doesn't affect gaming much more than the gender of the character, because nothing else in gaming really relates to what you really are in any way. I could probably talk about gender and biology and how that translates into modern-day roles in a stereotypical vein, however, with a realization that there are many exceptions and that stating something in general doesn't mean that it's absolutely true.</blockquote>

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