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<blockquote data-quote="Thornir Alekeg" data-source="post: 3682304" data-attributes="member: 15651">Be ready to go.&nbsp; If you are five weeks from the due date, get things ready really soon.&nbsp; Despite common wisdom that first children tend to come late, you cannot count on it.&nbsp; My wife went into labor three weeks before the due date, and things moved very quickly.&nbsp; The evening she went into labor we were supposed to get things packed.&nbsp; I spent a lot of time between contractions running about the house grabbing things and throwing them into the car.&nbsp; During labor, if your wife needs to hold your hand, don't give her your whole hand.&nbsp; If you do she'll squeeze and grind the fingers against each other.&nbsp; Unless you want to some pain to &quot;share the experience,&quot; give her two fingers to hold.&nbsp; It is enough to offer some comfort, but not disable you.After the delivery, remember that your wife just went through a very difficult thing.&nbsp; One of the best things you can do is to take care of her for the next couple of weeks.&nbsp; Don't think time home with her and the baby is a great opportunity to work on some projects, or get your next game session prepped.&nbsp; Focus on your wife's needs, whether that means taking care of the baby, or letting her do it whlile you clean the house, cook meals, etc.&nbsp; Trust me when I say the long-term gains of doing this is worth every bit of effort.Rather than trying to get things done around the house when the baby falls asleep, sleep when the baby sleeps.&nbsp; Encourage your wife to do the same.&nbsp; Don't be afraid to go against what other people say.&nbsp; This is your child, not theirs.&nbsp; If you and youe wife think something less &quot;conventional&quot; is a better way of raising your child, go for it.&nbsp; Here in the U.S. having the baby in your bed or even your room is generally seen as odd.&nbsp; We tried the nursery and crib thing with our first child.&nbsp; It just wasn't worth the trouble.&nbsp; We all slept better when she was in bed with us.&nbsp; We never even bothered with a crib for our second.&nbsp; We took precautions to make sure we wouldn't roll over on the baby or smother him with the covers (bought a thing called a Snuggle Nest with low, hard sides to but the baby in between us).&nbsp; We got grief from friends and family, but it worked great for us.Everything changes when your baby is born.&nbsp; Not everything is for the better, but it is all worth it.&nbsp; Congratulations.&nbsp; Enjoy it.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Thornir Alekeg, post: 3682304, member: 15651"] Be ready to go. If you are five weeks from the due date, get things ready really soon. Despite common wisdom that first children tend to come late, you cannot count on it. My wife went into labor three weeks before the due date, and things moved very quickly. The evening she went into labor we were supposed to get things packed. I spent a lot of time between contractions running about the house grabbing things and throwing them into the car. During labor, if your wife needs to hold your hand, don't give her your whole hand. If you do she'll squeeze and grind the fingers against each other. Unless you want to some pain to "share the experience," give her two fingers to hold. It is enough to offer some comfort, but not disable you. After the delivery, remember that your wife just went through a very difficult thing. One of the best things you can do is to take care of her for the next couple of weeks. Don't think time home with her and the baby is a great opportunity to work on some projects, or get your next game session prepped. Focus on your wife's needs, whether that means taking care of the baby, or letting her do it whlile you clean the house, cook meals, etc. Trust me when I say the long-term gains of doing this is worth every bit of effort. Rather than trying to get things done around the house when the baby falls asleep, sleep when the baby sleeps. Encourage your wife to do the same. Don't be afraid to go against what other people say. This is your child, not theirs. If you and youe wife think something less "conventional" is a better way of raising your child, go for it. Here in the U.S. having the baby in your bed or even your room is generally seen as odd. We tried the nursery and crib thing with our first child. It just wasn't worth the trouble. We all slept better when she was in bed with us. We never even bothered with a crib for our second. We took precautions to make sure we wouldn't roll over on the baby or smother him with the covers (bought a thing called a Snuggle Nest with low, hard sides to but the baby in between us). We got grief from friends and family, but it worked great for us. Everything changes when your baby is born. Not everything is for the better, but it is all worth it. Congratulations. Enjoy it. [/QUOTE]

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