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Message: <blockquote data-quote="crazy_monkey1956" data-source="post: 3682353" data-attributes="member: 49514">From a father of four...You will get a lot of opinions about what is "right" and "wrong" but Thornir and others are right.  Every baby is different so do what works best for you.That being said, I second the baby not sleeping in bed with you.  We kept each of our four in a basinet in our room for the first two months or so, then moved them to cribs in their rooms or a shared room with an older sibling after that.I also second the hand-holding part.  During labor, your wife will be experiencing a type of pain that us guys will never, ever understand.  Don't give her your whole hand or she will try, unintentionally, to share that pain with you.Breastfeeding is a hit or miss thing.  As someone said above, not every woman can do it and there's no shame in that.  My wife hasn't been able to with any of ours and she tried with all four.As someone else said, be ready to go...now.  My first two were both born a month early.  You are going to get dirty.  The baby will burp-up on you, on itself, on the floor.  It will have a bowel movement while you are changing its diaper.  When you start introducing baby food or real food or what-have-you, 99% of it will end up everywhere but the baby's mouth.  If you are a clean or neat freak you'll have to let that go for a while...trust me, you'll be happier.Speaking of dirty, natural birth is messy.  Don't get me wrong, it is a beautiful experience and I've been there holding my wife's hand and encouraging her for all four...but it is more gory than any horror movie you've ever seen.  If you have a weak stomach, strongly consider not actually watching the baby come out.  That's all I can think of at the moment.  Well, one more thing...when you're ready, do it again.  Speaking as a) an only child myself and b) as a father of four...siblings are a good thing.And of course, your experience will be exceptionally different from anyone else's.  Congratulations.  Good luck with the future gamer.   <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink    ;)"  data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /></blockquote>

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