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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Raven Crowking" data-source="post: 3684978" data-attributes="member: 18280">First off, congrats!Second off, try to remember that your parents were also young(ish) and foolish(ish) when they first had kids, so now's the time to forgive them for whatever they did & hopefully learn from it.  I never understood my parents quite so well as when I first had a child.  Which also means, go to your parents for advice and support if you can.  You might see a whole 'nother side of them!Try to keep the primary relationship strong with physical contact, though be aware that you might be more than a little lonely in the sack for a bit.  Some women experience pain during intercourse while breastfeeding; it's normal and it will eventually go away.  It has nothing to do with whether the baby is delivered vaginally of via C-Section, either.  So, both of you should try to maintain physical contact without pressure, as much as you feel comfortable with.If you can take time off, do it.  Watch out for postpartum depression, which is (AFAIK) biochemical in nature and can affect anyone who delivers a baby.Remember that newborns are fragile creatures.  Support the neck.  I know you've gotten swaddling advice already....I'm not sure you've gotten husing advice.  When the baby is in the womb the whole world (supposedly) sounds kind of "whoosh-whooshy".  You can mimic this with your swaddled baby by hushing close to him/her.Some babies cry.  A lot.  It's not your fault.  Maintain patience and calm, even if it means parenting in turns.  If the crying seems at all unusual, though, have it checked out.Lighten up on the day-to-day stuff.  If you don't know how to cook, learn, because Mom is going to need some time to feed the baby, bond with the baby, recover, and so on.  If you don't know how to change a diaper, learn.  In fact, now's the time to put the concept of "partnership" to the test.Good luck.  I've got three children, aged 16, 8, and 10 months.  They are all wonderful beings, if sometimes a little vexing, and all unique individuals.  Parenthood can really be worth all of the work.  There will be work.  And heartache (wait 'til you get to the teen years!).  But there'll be a lot of joy, too.RC</blockquote>

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