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<blockquote data-quote="danzig138" data-source="post: 3704561" data-attributes="member: 3595">Damn skippy. TV and movies lied to me all my life about that. When my first was born, I wasn't instantly connected. I haven't felt anything like that for any of the three of them. I love my kids now (13, 11, and 1.1), but it took a while with each of them. When they came out, I didn't know them, just like they didn't really know me. It's like any relationship - it takes time to develop as you get to know each other. If friends and co-workers offer you old baby clothes, take them. Don't drop the baby in the hospital - wait until you get home. Otherwise, listen to what people have to say on the matter, but remember, most people don't actually know what they're talking about, so you'll more often than not just have to find things that work for you. And I don't know what your home situation is, but the way we're set up, once the breastfeeding ends, be prepared for her to sleep through every sound the baby makes at night, trusting in you to get up and deal with things. I could probably go set my amp up next to her and play guitar while she sleeps (and I play hardcore punk) and I don't think it would wake her up.&nbsp; <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink&nbsp; &nbsp; ;)"&nbsp; data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" />Congrats also.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="danzig138, post: 3704561, member: 3595"] Damn skippy. TV and movies lied to me all my life about that. When my first was born, I wasn't instantly connected. I haven't felt anything like that for any of the three of them. I love my kids now (13, 11, and 1.1), but it took a while with each of them. When they came out, I didn't know them, just like they didn't really know me. It's like any relationship - it takes time to develop as you get to know each other. If friends and co-workers offer you old baby clothes, take them. Don't drop the baby in the hospital - wait until you get home. Otherwise, listen to what people have to say on the matter, but remember, most people don't actually know what they're talking about, so you'll more often than not just have to find things that work for you. And I don't know what your home situation is, but the way we're set up, once the breastfeeding ends, be prepared for her to sleep through every sound the baby makes at night, trusting in you to get up and deal with things. I could probably go set my amp up next to her and play guitar while she sleeps (and I play hardcore punk) and I don't think it would wake her up. ;) Congrats also. [/QUOTE]

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