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<blockquote data-quote="werk" data-source="post: 2832401" data-attributes="member: 29663">Sounds like me.&nbsp; Just because the class is higher level, or AP (whatever that is), doesn't mean it is challenging or engaging, which is the real issue.&nbsp; I never did homework, largely because I didn't need to.&nbsp; In public school, they would teach the lesson, then do examples, then ask you to do more examples for homework.&nbsp; OK! I had it before you finished the lesson, the examples made me bored to death, and now I'll be damned if I'm gonna do more examples at home to show you that I know what I'm doing.&nbsp; The problem is the set-up, not the material.Not a lot you can do about it other than observe classes to see how they are set up and get him into classes that are less 'traditional'...good luck with that.&nbsp; FWIW, I never did homework and finished public high school with a B average (we called them 'accelerated classes' back then), went to college and almost flunked out until I found a field that interested me, then I got a strait 4.0.&nbsp; It has to come from inside him, not outside from you.&nbsp; Be supportive, and actually listen to his complaints.Lazy is easily confused with belligerent frustration (see passive aggressive).&nbsp; Hope that helps.I think you are doing the right thing by not allowing him to go, but is that punishment because he wants to go to GenCon and play games, or is that punishment because he doesn't get to take a trip with dad?&nbsp; I probably wouldn't rob him of the opportunity to spend time with you, that's good for him, I hope.&nbsp; If you share a lot of time together, then you should go and leave him sitting home with mom with a big list of chores.&nbsp; If you don't spend much time together, then find an alternate activity you can do together, like chores!</blockquote>

[QUOTE="werk, post: 2832401, member: 29663"] Sounds like me. Just because the class is higher level, or AP (whatever that is), doesn't mean it is challenging or engaging, which is the real issue. I never did homework, largely because I didn't need to. In public school, they would teach the lesson, then do examples, then ask you to do more examples for homework. OK! I had it before you finished the lesson, the examples made me bored to death, and now I'll be damned if I'm gonna do more examples at home to show you that I know what I'm doing. The problem is the set-up, not the material. Not a lot you can do about it other than observe classes to see how they are set up and get him into classes that are less 'traditional'...good luck with that. FWIW, I never did homework and finished public high school with a B average (we called them 'accelerated classes' back then), went to college and almost flunked out until I found a field that interested me, then I got a strait 4.0. It has to come from inside him, not outside from you. Be supportive, and actually listen to his complaints. Lazy is easily confused with belligerent frustration (see passive aggressive). Hope that helps. I think you are doing the right thing by not allowing him to go, but is that punishment because he wants to go to GenCon and play games, or is that punishment because he doesn't get to take a trip with dad? I probably wouldn't rob him of the opportunity to spend time with you, that's good for him, I hope. If you share a lot of time together, then you should go and leave him sitting home with mom with a big list of chores. If you don't spend much time together, then find an alternate activity you can do together, like chores! [/QUOTE]

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