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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Impeesa" data-source="post: 89377" data-attributes="member: 498">Hmm.. Re: the 'friend zone': Let me tell you a little story about a girl I know. I have known her since elementary school, and we were good friends on and off until late high school. At that point, I had a few different circles of friends sort of 'consolidate', and I wound up spending a lot more time around her. Well, I really started to like her, and when I realized that I could think of no other words to describe her other than abstract superlatives, it occurred to me that I should do something about it. About a month later a friend inadvertently revealed that she had confessed to him her (very similar) feelings for me. Well, that was all the prompting I needed... we celebrated two years together about a week and a half ago. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f600.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":D" title="Big grin    :D"  data-smilie="8"data-shortname=":D" /> Conclusion: It can be done.As for telling both 'Ann' and 'Morgan', don't. I now submit for your approval another pointless anecdote: I have seen this happen before, I was not involved but I witnessed it firsthand. It wasn't pretty. Ok, I have four friends involved here: 3 guys, one girl. Everyone is very good friends, but it's getting scary already. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> Guy #1 has a total head-over-heels crush on her. Late one night he gets up the guts to call her up and make a confession, she turns him down. He basically goes off the deep end, but to save space he basically doesn't talk to her anymore. She later claims he might have had a chance had he been willing to talk things through, and that her rejection was at least partially due to her shock. Oh well. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /> So Guy #2, about a month (maybe less) later, asks her out. She's a little more receptive, this lasts about a month. Guy #1 is now no longer talking to Guy #2. Both loath the girl. She, meanwhile, finds her way together with Guy #3, who isn't as proactive (for lack of a better word) as the other two, but probably more of the 'serious relationship' type. Guys #1 and #2 now do not talk to either her or Guy #3. Fallout from this little soap opera (yes, this is *very* condensed) is still felt over a year later. Conclusion: it's probably a very bad idea!If all else fails, talk to Morgan, point out Ann's faults, etc, until he grows equally dissatisfied and dumps her, then offer your shoulder for her to cry on. Sure, it sucks being the 'rebound' guy, but it's possible to turn that into something lasting. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />--Impeesa--</blockquote>

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