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Message: <blockquote data-quote="apsuman" data-source="post: 90885" data-attributes="member: 1769">I have not read the follow ups to your original post, I figure they are irrellevant (sp?) to my experience.I had a similar situation occur myself.  My advise is to keep your feelings to yourself.The me that was 20 did this (mainly because I could not find the courage to act).  However, it turns out that it was the best thing I could do.You risk the certainty of making three (you, Morgan, Ann) people feel bad (or at least very awkward) just so you can get something off your chest.  I say do not do it.  What good will come of it?  What's the best case here?  She dumps him and dates you, how would that make you feel?  How would Morgan feel?  Could you still be friends with Morgan?  Would you be able to trust that Ann would not dump you in a year and a half because some other guy cam up and said he was in love with her?  What's the medium case?  She rebuffs you breaks your heart, and Morgan does not trust you anymore?  What's the worst case, Ann and Morgan both do not talk to you?  Again, what good can come of it?We (and by that I mean US society) are in love with being in love.  As children we learn all about true love in all the fairly tales we see.  Current popular media does a thrifty business rehashing this idea too.  Nobody seems to point out the rational idea that relationships have to exist on more levels that merely (yes, I said merely) loving someone.Let me give you an example.  A woman who was raised as a Seventh Day Adventist and wants to have raise children in a similar home is dating a man that drinks heavily.  (Adventists do not drink, as I understand.)  Now she loves him, but this is just a relationship doomed to failure, but I bet you can find one very similar to this one that has been dragging on for years with both people unhappy.  They probably had a couple of kids to "fix" the unhappiness.  (Sorry, I am starting to digress.)Having a relationship (not even talking about marriage here) requires a great deal of trust.  You want to be the homewrecker here and then want her to trust you.  Would any of your other friends trust you?The best thing that can happen to you is you find someone else (or rather they find you and a way to your heart).  The best thing you can do is bite your tounge.  If you are lucky and they break up and she becomes fair game, still you might need to bite your tounge lest she think you a stalker.g!p.s. I will read the other posts now</blockquote>

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