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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Mach2.5" data-source="post: 1050488" data-attributes="member: 12834">Those are some very sad stories. I really feal bad for some of you for being in such unpleasant situations. I was rather lucky. Both me and my wife DM's two different games. I ran a Greyhawk game (switching later to Dark Sun) game while my wife ran Alternity (later switching to VtM) and we each participated in the other's game. We both got heckled slightly by our fellow gaming group for being able to 'sway the judge with favors' so to speak, but in actuality, we kept each other's game in the strictest of confidence. Only rarely did my wife give my any kind of 'privledged information' about something going on in her game and only to ask for help or advice since she was new to gaming and even newer to running a game. None of the other participants ever felt that me or my wife gave the other preferrential treatment, except the fact that of course, each of us was able to regularly attend the other's game and thus were a slight notch above the other players, but we made exception to those who only missed a game or two here and there by having the previously absent PC present a small 'story-time' telling of the PCs exploits during his or her absence and awarding compensating XP for such (around half of what the rest of the group gained for participating).As for advice to those who are in a game with 'issues' like those presented in the above posts, don't wait to do something about it. A small problem is easy to deal with, especially between friends. If that problem is left unchecked, it will indeed grow out of hand (the uber wizard with his pet pegasus and the substantially more powerful than the rest of the group NPC follower are prime examples of problems that have probably been around for some time). A large problem or one that has been around for a while is much more difficult to deal with. Some people do not take as kindly to criticism so always try and deal with the situation in a mature fashion. Talk privately with the people in your game who are creating the problem since people tend to be less defensive when not faced by a group of complaints. If others feal the same way that you do, tell the problem DM or player that you are not alone in your thinking, but did not want to make a fiasco about it in front of everyone else. Let the other players who feel likewise also discuss it in private with the person as well. Give the game some time to work out the problem and see if it persists (more than just a single session, change rarely happens overnight). If it does, simply ask the other players who feel likewise to - and I don't know how else to phrase this - boycott the game.Remeber, although many DMs will tell you that your sessions are 'their' game and they will do what they want (a mindset unfortunately backed up in many rulebooks), there is no game without a group to play it. Tell the DM or offending player(s) that you will not participate in their game unless things become more fair to everyone involved. If that still doesn't work, then start your own game with the players that feel the same as you do about the situation. Express an open and heartfelt invitation to the problem individuals to join if you are still friends with them and try not to make the same mistakes in your game that they have. Then, when the formerly offending players have joined your new game, shove their PCs into a den of dozens of ravenous tembo and watch their horror as their PCs are ripped to shreds and devoured!!!! *murderous cackle*. . . . errr . . . sorry about that. Won't happen again. I promise <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /></blockquote>

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