Menu
News
All News
Dungeons & Dragons
Level Up: Advanced 5th Edition
Pathfinder
Starfinder
Warhammer
2d20 System
Year Zero Engine
Industry News
Reviews
Dragon Reflections
Columns
Weekly Digests
Weekly News Digest
Freebies, Sales & Bundles
RPG Print News
RPG Crowdfunding News
Game Content
ENterplanetary DimENsions
Mythological Figures
Opinion
Worlds of Design
Peregrine's Next
RPG Evolution
Other Columns
From the Freelancing Frontline
Monster ENcyclopedia
WotC/TSR Alumni Look Back
4 Hours w/RSD (Ryan Dancey)
The Road to 3E (Jonathan Tweet)
Greenwood's Realms (Ed Greenwood)
Drawmij's TSR (Jim Ward)
Community
Forums & Topics
Forum List
Latest Posts
Forum list
*Dungeons & Dragons
Level Up: Advanced 5th Edition
D&D Older Editions
*TTRPGs General
*Pathfinder & Starfinder
EN Publishing
*Geek Talk & Media
Search forums
Chat/Discord
Resources
Wiki
Pages
Latest activity
Media
New media
New comments
Search media
Downloads
Latest reviews
Search resources
EN Publishing
Store
EN5ider
Adventures in ZEITGEIST
Awfully Cheerful Engine
What's OLD is NEW
Judge Dredd & The Worlds Of 2000AD
War of the Burning Sky
Level Up: Advanced 5E
Events & Releases
Upcoming Events
Private Events
Featured Events
Socials!
Twitch
YouTube
Facebook (EN Publishing)
Facebook (EN World)
Twitter
Instagram
TikTok
Podcast
Features
Top 5 RPGs Compiled Charts 2004-Present
Adventure Game Industry Market Research Summary (RPGs) V1.0
Ryan Dancey: Acquiring TSR
Q&A With Gary Gygax
D&D Rules FAQs
TSR, WotC, & Paizo: A Comparative History
D&D Pronunciation Guide
Million Dollar TTRPG Kickstarters
Tabletop RPG Podcast Hall of Fame
Eric Noah's Unofficial D&D 3rd Edition News
D&D in the Mainstream
D&D & RPG History
About Morrus
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
Forums & Topics
Forum List
Latest Posts
Forum list
*Dungeons & Dragons
Level Up: Advanced 5th Edition
D&D Older Editions
*TTRPGs General
*Pathfinder & Starfinder
EN Publishing
*Geek Talk & Media
Search forums
Chat/Discord
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Community
General Tabletop Discussion
*Dungeons & Dragons
Toxicity in the Fandom
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Ruin Explorer" data-source="post: 8715353" data-attributes="member: 18"><p>Yeah this is an interesting point.</p><p></p><p>I've (like all human beings) have been accused of being "a racist" before, but it's like, it doesn't even slightly upset me. So when people are acting like it's the worst thing you can say about someone, I kind of wonder about those people - mostly for the reasons you've described. People say "I haven't got a racist bone in my body!!!", and it's like, everyone does, it's just some people are in denial about it. I've definitely said racist things - you example is a good one that I used to use as a teenager. I mean, sheesh, as a teenager thanks to the baleful influence of the internet, I used to use the American homophobic f-word.</p><p></p><p>What's really telling is how you react when someone asks you to change or to think about it. Like, when I really got that the f-word was homophobic, not just "funny", I stopped using it. It didn't instantly vanish from my vocabulary, but it slowly went away. But I know other people who just got mad when they were told they shouldn't use it, and doubled down, like rebellious twelve-year-olds.</p><p></p><p>Equally the word you mention, once I realized from an article where it was from, I consciously stopped using it. I didn't double-down. I didn't get mad. I didn't think that society was being unfair to me. It's not a big ask.</p><p></p><p>I think one random thing that helped me as well as in the mid 2000s Harvard did a sort of assay of racism over the internet, getting people to react to words and faces, and it found that I was negatively biased against South Asian men (but not women, curiously), and honestly, <em>it was right</em>. I'd had bad experiences and whilst I'd never said anything racist nor held conscious racist views, I often had a negative feeling. And I had (and have) South Asian friends (lol the old defence/canard), none of whom had suggested I was racist, but I know that I was more likely to be judge someone negatively or make negative assumptions if they were a South Asian male unfamiliar to me. And knowing that, I could work on it, compensate for it. Whereas if I'd rejected that out of hand as a horrible and unfair allegation, I could not have worked on it.</p><p></p><p>Having accepted that I had been guilty of racism (like everyone!), it's meant that I just don't get hurt by random accusations of such. So it's weird to me that some people can't face that sometimes they might be engaging in racism, that's it's horribly unfair to even say it, like the worst thing you could say. It's not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ruin Explorer, post: 8715353, member: 18"] Yeah this is an interesting point. I've (like all human beings) have been accused of being "a racist" before, but it's like, it doesn't even slightly upset me. So when people are acting like it's the worst thing you can say about someone, I kind of wonder about those people - mostly for the reasons you've described. People say "I haven't got a racist bone in my body!!!", and it's like, everyone does, it's just some people are in denial about it. I've definitely said racist things - you example is a good one that I used to use as a teenager. I mean, sheesh, as a teenager thanks to the baleful influence of the internet, I used to use the American homophobic f-word. What's really telling is how you react when someone asks you to change or to think about it. Like, when I really got that the f-word was homophobic, not just "funny", I stopped using it. It didn't instantly vanish from my vocabulary, but it slowly went away. But I know other people who just got mad when they were told they shouldn't use it, and doubled down, like rebellious twelve-year-olds. Equally the word you mention, once I realized from an article where it was from, I consciously stopped using it. I didn't double-down. I didn't get mad. I didn't think that society was being unfair to me. It's not a big ask. I think one random thing that helped me as well as in the mid 2000s Harvard did a sort of assay of racism over the internet, getting people to react to words and faces, and it found that I was negatively biased against South Asian men (but not women, curiously), and honestly, [I]it was right[/I]. I'd had bad experiences and whilst I'd never said anything racist nor held conscious racist views, I often had a negative feeling. And I had (and have) South Asian friends (lol the old defence/canard), none of whom had suggested I was racist, but I know that I was more likely to be judge someone negatively or make negative assumptions if they were a South Asian male unfamiliar to me. And knowing that, I could work on it, compensate for it. Whereas if I'd rejected that out of hand as a horrible and unfair allegation, I could not have worked on it. Having accepted that I had been guilty of racism (like everyone!), it's meant that I just don't get hurt by random accusations of such. So it's weird to me that some people can't face that sometimes they might be engaging in racism, that's it's horribly unfair to even say it, like the worst thing you could say. It's not. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Community
General Tabletop Discussion
*Dungeons & Dragons
Toxicity in the Fandom
Top