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Message: <blockquote data-quote="MNblockhead" data-source="post: 6859459" data-attributes="member: 6796661">I understand that you feel it would be the honorable course to inform him of the new game and groups decision to exclude him, but from his perspective it will likely come across as a slight. It may feel to him that you are just contacting him to rub his nose in it. Even if you take great efforts to deliver the message in such a way as to avoid offense, it is still not pleasant to hear that there is a party and you are not invited. You said that you do not have much contact with him outside of the VTT. Has *he* made *any* attempt to keep in touch? Does he invite you to any games? If not, then his asking to keep him in mind for a future campaign may just be his way of trying to lessen any potential offense you as the GM may have taken at him leaving your game "in a huff." He is the one who left based over umbrage he took over perceived slights delivered by your group. I don't think you owe him anything. On the other hand, if he has been trying to keep the relationship going; if he has been in communication and has expressed an interest in playing; then I think you do owe it to him to have a conversation. Explain the ground rules and expectations of the group. Tell him that if he doesn't agree to these ground rules, then maybe it is not the right game for him, but that there may be other games you can get together for. If your group absolutely doesn't want to play with him then you just have to tell him that. State that you would like to keep him as a friend, but that this group doesn't want to play with him. You may lose him as a friend, but adults realize that many of us hang out in multiple social circles that don't always mix well. If he needs all of his friends' friends to be his friends than he'll need to get used to a very small social circle.</blockquote>

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