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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Treebore" data-source="post: 1716891" data-attributes="member: 10177">Real love is a two way street. If she doesn't have it for you then it won't happen. Are you sure you see something hidden or are you just lying to yourself to avoid the pain?Give yourself time and distance, when your mind clears of the confusion then you will be able to make real choices. It took me about two years. Then another two to find my wife. We have been married for 14 years and I had no idea I/we could be this happy after 14 years of being together. We are happier now than ever before.My first love? A sick and twisted memory that doesn't hold a candle to the real thing. She is not the end all, be all of your life. Some day you will find out what that really is. First you have to learn better.Who knows? Maybe she is just as torn up and twisted inside as you are and has convinced herself that you and her can't happen. Maybe.More likely she comes first in her mind. That is not real love of another, that is love of herself and what she wants.If you and her are really meant to be give yourself that separation and time to clear your head. If your meant to be she will wait for you because she will come to realize that there is no one else for her but you. If she doesn't come to realize this, on her own, then it isn't for real. When you have the distance and clarity to look at this situation without so much emotional turmoil, maybe then you will realize the truth of things for yourself.Either way, your in for a lot of pain. Just remember there is a life after her. Don't give up on yourself. Everything else will fall into place when it is time.</blockquote>

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