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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Krieg" data-source="post: 1717290" data-attributes="member: 5282">Don't kid yourself. You are not the same emotionally as the average 40 year old. True emotional maturity comes with life experience, something you are lacking at this point in your life. A difficult childhood is not a substitute for that. Bull. There is no point of no-return. That is a rationalization that you are using to justify your actions. No. You can't.  Don't kid yourself. It happens all the time. Trust me when I tell you that at least some of the folks who have answered you in this thread have been in similar situations to yours (emotionally at least). They are advocating distance for a reason...personal experience. Everything you have said so far belies your claims of maturity and being on top of the situation. Your words parrot those of every other 18 y/o who has ever lived. You haven't seen more, you haven't experienced more, you aren't any wiser than anyone else and your situation is in no way special or unique. You are a teenager letting his emotions and pride rule his decisions. Seperation is exactly what you need right now. You don't have to return to the US, but you need to put space between yourself and this girl. If you really want the relationship to EVER have a chance, that seperation is absolutely necessary. If there is any chance for the two of you, you have to get away. Your staying will only drive her further away. If you push now, she will only flee farther. You run a very real risk of driving her away forever.  Am I being harsh? Yes, but you need to hear it. You aren't listening to those who are trying to say it more tactfully (will except for TW anyways lol). The only real chance you have of salvaging yourself and any chance of this relationship ever working out is to achieve emotional seperation. Immediately if not sooner. End of story.</blockquote>

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