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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Ankh-Morpork Guard" data-source="post: 1717420" data-attributes="member: 10079">See, here's the thing...she USED PROTECTION. I can't stop defending her from certain things, mainly because she doesn' 'sleep around' as has been suggested. Its become a very awkward situation, and I do agree that getting out is what I have to do.I just can't get out physically. I'm stuck HERE for now. If I try to get out of here, I'll have a hundred more problems piled on that I can't deal with right now. But since SHE will be moving out, and won't be contacting her mother(she's lived on her own before...never once thought about 'home'). She'll be too busy dealing with things on her end to have time to even try staying in contact. So I'll get that seperation, whether I like it or not.I'll admit now that I've probably painte her out to be a lot worse than she really is. No, I'm not trying to take back the things I've said, but the blame for many things is just as much my own as it is hers. There ARE ways to 'fix' this situation, and everyone that's said 'get out' is pretty much right. I'm going to seperate myself as best as I can, and getting into College is really the first step.I DO need friends of my own. I WANT friends of my own, and currently, that'll be the only way to get that. Once I have that, I'll transfer to a Student Visa and then I can get a job...so there's income and a slightly more stable life for me to focus on until...whatever. I'm not going to pretend to know what will happen, but I can say that I'm one stubborn jerk, and while I will back off, I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up because I know that's NOT the thing to do. Exactly! The relationship really BECAME a parent-child one earlier this year due to my own...problems. I stopped doing a lot of things I should have, and focussed far too much on my own probems at the time. This left her stuck in a relationship SHE didn't want either. So, she found one she did want. Thing is, she got more out of it than she'd planned, and it looks to me like this current 'relationship', which barely qualifies as that anymore, is only going to last a few months. That doesn't mean I'm going to jump in the second its over. Far from that...but its something everyone else has seen.From people here, most of the advice has been similar. Get my own friends being the key to it all. No one says 'get out' because they know I can't, but they DO say to go off an have my own life. I never really wanted that before, but now I think I do. I would LIKE her to be a part of it, but right now that's not going to happen...so I'll just have to deal with that. Funny, I don't mind you guys being blunt and 'cruel' about this. I DO need to at least hear it. And it proves once more that ENWorld is really a great place. People here care, and that sure seems to be a rare thing on the net these days. I'l say that no matter WHAT ends up happening with all of this...thanks. Even if  I don't agree with you, thanks.</blockquote>

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